A Silent Tragedy In How We Are Raising Our Children

A Silent Tragedy In How We Are Raising Our Children

A SILENT TRAGEDY

There is a silent tragedy that is unfolding today in our homes and concerns our most precious jewels: our children.

Our children are in a devastating emotional state! In the last 15 years, researchers have given us increasingly alarming statistics on a sharp and steady increase in childhood mental illness that is now reaching epidemic proportions:

Statistics do not lie:

• 1 in 5 children have mental health problems

• A 43% increase in diagnosed ADHD

• A 37% increase in adolescent depression has been noted

• There has been a 200% increase in the suicide rate in children aged 10 to 14

What is happening and what are we doing wrong?

Today’s children are being over-stimulated and over-gifted with material objects, but they are deprived of the fundamentals of a healthy childhood, such as:

• Emotionally available parents

• Clearly defined limits

• Responsibilities

• Balanced nutrition and adequate sleep

• Movement in general but especially outdoors

• Creative play, social interaction, unstructured game opportunities and boredom spaces

Instead, in recent years, children have been filled with:

• Digitally distracted parents

• Indulgent and permissive parents who let children “rule the world” and whoever sets the rules

• A sense of right, of deserving everything without earning it or being responsible for obtaining it

• Inadequate sleep and unbalanced nutrition

• A sedentary lifestyle

• Endless stimulation, technological nannies, instant gratification and absence of boring moments

What to do?

If we want our children to be happy and healthy individuals, we have to wake up and get back to basics. It is still possible! Many families see immediate improvements after weeks of implementing the following recommendations:

• Set limits and remember that you are the captain of the ship. Your children will feel more confident knowing that you have control of the helm.

• Offer children a balanced lifestyle full of what children NEED, not just what they WANT. Don’t be afraid to say “no” to your children if what they want is not what they need.

• Provide nutritious food and limit junk food.

• Spend at least one hour a day outdoors doing activities such as cycling, walking, fishing, bird/insect watching

• Enjoy a daily family dinner without smartphones or distracting technology, let everyone feel valued

• Play board games as a family or if children are very small for board games, just let the pretend to play it

• Involve your children in some homework or household chores according to their age (folding clothes, hanging clothes, unpacking food, setting the table, feeding the dog, etc.)

• Implement a consistent sleep routine to ensure your child gets enough sleep. The schedules will be even more important for school-age children.

• Teach responsibility and independence. Do not overprotect them against all frustration or mistakes. Misunderstanding will help them build resilience and learn to overcome life’s challenges,

• Do not carry your children’s backpack, do not carry the homework they forgot, do not peel bananas or peel oranges if they can do it on their own (4-5 years). Instead of giving them the fish, teach them to fish.

• Teach them to wait and delay gratification.

• Provide opportunities for “boredom”, since boredom is the moment when creativity awakens. Do not feel responsible for always keeping children entertained.

• Do not use technology as a cure for boredom, nor offer it at the first second of inactivity.

• Avoid using technology during meals, in cars, restaurants, shopping centers. Use these moments as opportunities to socialize by training the brains to know how to work when they are in mode: “boredom”

• Help them create a “bottle of boredom” with activity ideas for when they are bored.

• Be emotionally available to connect with children and teach them self-regulation and social skills:

• Turn off the phones at night when children have to go to bed to avoid digital distractions.

• Become a regulator or emotional trainer for your children. Teach them to recognize and manage their own frustrations and anger.

• Teach them to greet, to take turns, to share without running out of anything, to say thank you and please, to acknowledge the error and apologize (do not force them), be a model of all those values you instill.

• Connect emotionally – smile, hug, kiss, tickle, read, dance, jump, play or crawl with them.

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Article written by Dr. Luis Rojas Marcos Psychiatrist.

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7 thoughts on “A Silent Tragedy In How We Are Raising Our Children

      1. Why? Because ‘no God’ is a better foundational construct? Because you have proof there is no God? Because you can show us how the Darwinian inevitability associated with blind chance provides a meaningful purpose and foundation for morality & ethics? Why pray tell is this funny?

    1. I believe in God and we are a faithful family, but it’s a fallacy that people who don’t believe in God or have a faith grounding are unethical, immoral, and uncaring. I know a number of atheist/agnostic parents who live highly purposeful, value-driven live sand are raising their children to be compassionate, good stewards, responsible citizens and great people. I can disagree with them on the purpose of our life on earth, on what will happen after we die, and my belief in God, but their lack of faith doesn’t automatically make them uncaring amoral people.

      1. Our questions to Jeff did not indict him of being able to act morally or ethically. We asked whether he could defend his clear disdain for a God-centered worldview. I agree that anyone can recognize morality and even act morally. In fact such a reality is upheld in the Christian scriptures (Romans 2:14-15) Moral & ethical behavior (choices) in and of themselves are the “materials” of a system. Unless that system can be defined, described and upheld then the concepts of morality and ethics become bound to the subjective and autonomous. Such a foundation offers no balance, strength or stability. Cecilia Skudder was expressing that there IS a foundation for moral & ethical behavior that offers the requisite balance, strength and stability and it is the character & nature of God Himself. Having access to the materials of a system does not translate into having the system itself. This can only be known by those of whom the Apostle Paul could say “Christ is in you” in 2 Corinthians 13:5.

  1. I think of one basic FACT.90% of the wealth of the world isowned by 10% of the population. Where does that placepeople in terms of pecking order,finance and Value. Nowhere!.Parents steal time to spend with their children.They have become Corporate Slaves and the downward spiral of same dished out to their children will be so much worse. A generation that will.not own their own homes,be able to spend time with their children or be able tomake a home a home. No Value on either

    1. The above comment is very true but parents must have quality time with the family because the family is the core of the society. Inasmuch as the society today is not giving us the comfort to do so but “what is worth doing is worth doing well”.

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