Advice please ladies basically my fiance and I have been together for 8 years an…


Advice please ladies basically my fiance and I have been together for 8 years and have a 5 year old. Not long after my child was born my partner went through a difficult time and he suffered badly with depression and suicidal thoughts. For the last 4 years he’s had private therapy to help him overcome the hard days. He’s done so well getting where He is today. He knows for the last 2 years I’ve been desperate to extend our family and I’ve stood by him and waited. He’s almost 40 I’m 32. On 6th we had sex unprotected as we have done throughout our relationship instead of pulling out as usual he come inside me. We spoke recently about having a baby but basically he gave me no indication he wanted to start trying and told me if it happens then it happens. We tried once again that evening and he genuinely seemed happy. We even spoke about what he would prefere and he told me choice of name he would like. Anyway fast forward to today my period was due around the 11th of Oct and for the last 3 days ive been getting loads of cramping that feels like menstrual pain but im not bleeding. I dont remember having this with my first. I told him today I think I might be pregnant and he sounded devastated. Basically he’s now changed his mind and said he only done it for me. hes not coping with work at the moment as he’s position requires a lot of responsibility and He’s not supported. He feels he won’t cope and I’ve decided if the test is positive I will abort for the sake of his mental health although he is against this. Can’t help feeling this is all my fault i just want my partner to be happy enjoying life am I doing the right thing. I love him so much and couldn’t imagine life without him but at the same time this false hope and shattered dreams are killing me inside.i want a future with him not wasting life watching him struggle. What can I do to help him I understand he’s scared and I don’t want to put him under pressure but at the same time I can’t live like this anymore. 😢😢😢😢😢


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