Can I get a private post please? So a little back story… my older sister has had a drug dependency for most of her life. Got pregnant, and kept the baby. Was never able to actually stay clean for him so I stepped up as much as I could for the baby. I was only 15 at the time… From the time he was a few months old I was always there for him, he got taken into care for a while, but through social services he was able to come back into our family, but we have always had a problem with his drug addicted parents. Fast forward to now. I have temporary kinship of my nephew who is now 10 years old. At first I cut all contact with his mother because she was always high and her actions would upset him ( when she last had in her care, in march) he would hold in his poop for so long that when he finally let it out he wouldn’t use the toilet and would smear it all over the place. When he came into my care it only took a week for him to get back on track and was visibly not as worried anymore… She was a Facebook mom, only spending time with him to put up a front for Facebook.. so for the last few months I have let her back into his life as long as she was sober… she started out okay, but noticeably was still using. This has gotten to the point where he knows she’s not healthy, and he is starting to lash out. He’s starting fights at home with his cousins, fighting at school. He started having a temper with myself and yelling at me. He hides in his room lots of the time and cries. He won’t talk to anyone like he used to. When his mother wasn’t in the picture for the few months he was an angel, he would help out around the house. He was always smiling. He was just the most chipper little boy ever. Such a pleasure to be around. But since she’s been back his whole demenor has changed. I feel so guilty for having bring her back but she made me feel like I was keeping her away from him. So I need advice on what I should do.