Can i have a ppp? Right so I’m 19, and 26weeks pregnant. It was planned too bear…
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Can i have a ppp?
Right so I’m 19, and 26weeks pregnant. It was planned too bearing in mind, in need of some advice please!!!
Right so long story short, I got kicked out of my mums a year and half ago due to extremely bad arguments, moved into YMCA, then met my (ex) partner, moved in with him shortly after and planned a future together.
Fell pregnant, found a house, lived in said house and started arguing that leads to a month ago when we called it quits..
Last week I had to move back into my mums house (to me its temp cause I had no other choice) but she was under the impression it would be over a years time, I indirectly told her yesterday that me and my bestmate (who has a beautiful little girl) was going to find a place together so she can obvs help me out and I can help her out, and she’s going mad at me because I want to be gone before I give birth..
Since being at mums I feel so out of place and uncomfortable like I can’t be how I was before, I feel the need to go out all the time to avoid more arguments, so I leave for the day and come back at night..
I need advice on what to do because shes driving me absolutely insane and I can’t bear it any longer, am I out of order for wanting to have my own life again?
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To me it wasn’t exactly stress free at your mums before you were pregnant so doesn’t seem like it’s going to be now and once there’s a crying baby every 4 hours (or maybe you will be one of the lucky ones where your baby will sleep right through) everyone will be tired and cranky which might make things worse. There is loads of help out there for young single mum’s maybe try getting your own house ASAP. You do what YOU want not what your mum wants and do it in your own time…do what is best for you and the baby because through time your mum will get over it as soon ands she holds her beautiful grandson/daughter she’ll have forgotten all about it. Xx
Your mum is just worried and trying to help you get on your feet and wants to help out with the baby. She also probably wants to build a relationship with you and get closer. To move forward you have to leave the past issues behind and why don’t you explain how you feel without getting angry other jumping to conclusions. I’m sure she feels a little on edge to but talking openly will help you both move forward. I hope it goes well whatever you decide but remember you onlyget one mum and no matter how old you are or how you upset they are with you they never stop loving you or worrying if you are ok xx
At the end of the day it’s you and only you that can make this decision but me personally, I’d stay at your mums. After all she’s your mum, she’s always going to be there. Friends argue, you might be best mates at the moment but you don’t have the pressure of two babies, two lots of washing, and two lots of cleaning up.
Maybe stay with your mum long enough until you feel ready to have your own home with your baby 😊