Can I have a private post please.
Right girls I need to know if I’m in the wrong here..
So.. my boyfriend moved in about 4 months ago. He has 4 children from previous relationships.
So he works away most of the week and I work mostly weekends. When he has his kids of a Saturday I don’t understand why he takes them every single Saturday to his mums, if I’m in work or not he goes at 11 Saturday morning and comes back once he’s dropped the kids off around half 7. I don’t understand why he can’t bring them to ours, he says they don’t wanna come to ours but the eldest is 9 so I don’t get why he’s letting them decide. They’re never gunna get used to our house and us as a couple if he doesn’t bring them round at all. He says it’s cos they wanna play his computer and that’s still in his mums cos he won’t settle for a normal desk he wants to build one into my kids playroom but he can’t afford it yet as it’s gunna cost £300 🙈
He actually bought a little pc so the kids had something to play on in mine but then took it and set it up in his mums 🙈 then wonders why I get annoyed 👊🏻
My point is.. if he doesn’t bring them to his home then they are never gunna get used to it and want to come, they could be next doors kids for all the relationship I have with them, that’s not from lack of trying. He doesn’t seem to see where I’m coming from at all. I want some kind of relationship with them and that’s never gunna happen if he carrys on taking them to his mums every weekend.
It’s like he has a separate life and it’s really gets to me. I wanna be a family and be able to all be under one roof, even if it’s just for the day. I see his kids every now and again when we have a day out but that’s not enough.
His youngest doesn’t like me but she’s never gunna like me if he doesn’t bring her round and make an effort. Am I just being a crank? 😩🙈 x