Could I have a private post please?
I’m married with 3 children and work a shift pattern which requires me to do nightshifts. I also suffer with depression, therefore after I finish my nights I’m tired, teary and just miserable. My husband isn’t working at moment and hasn’t for 6months (but starts new job on Monday) when I come home from work in morning, the night befores dishes are lying, the kids dirty clothes are lying from night before and his dirty stuff. If I’m on for 2/3 nights in a row I come home, most times, to a complete shit tip. We argue about it and it never changes. It makes my anxiety and depression worse and spent all day yesterday in tears as I had just finished nights and had to spend day cleaning. I’ve tried to be diplomatic & I’ve tried to be harsh but none of these approaches work. I know to some people it may seem trivial but I feel as if I’ve not got a life as I spend my days off tidying and cleaning after everyone else and it really gets me down 😞