Could you possible do a post for me?
I want to know if I’m being hormonal and over reacting 🙈 I’m so angry at the moment. My mother in law keeps asking me when I will get sterilised. She asked me when I was pregnant with my 4th and put pressure on after a consultant said i would need to go private she said it was rubbish and I should get a second opinion.
Anyway long story short I’m pregnant with my 6th and she recently asked me again this week whether I will get sterilised. I explained I had thought about it but actually I wasn’t sure and on advice from my consultant probably wouldn’t as I am not 100%. She went on to put pressure on saying I should. I tried to stay polite and calm and asked her why she isn’t asking her son if he will have the procedure she said well you’re having a 6th section so they are already in there. I went on to explain whilst I don’t necessarily want anymore children I’m still 32 and in 10 years I could be in a different relationship and feel differently and the decision is too final for me. She said I would be too old at 42 to start again so I should just get it done. We left the conversation open ended as I didn’t want an argument.
Now I wouldn’t mind but I look after my own kids without any family help except occasionally she may take one or two kids at a push for the weekend. Then today my partner asked why I’m not being sterilised. Bottom line he met his mum at the services to hand over two kids for the weekend and the conversation ‘came up’ in the services car park about me being sterilised and how it shouldn’t be negotiable. I told him that in no uncertain terms I would not be getting it done now because of this and it’s none of her bloody business. I said to him if you’re so bothered you get it done. I’m so angry with her and with him that they can have a conversation about what I should do with my body and amused really that she thinks I will listen! Is it me or is this overstepping the mark? She would not in a million years say the same to any other daughter in law. 😡😡😡😡