Hi can I have a (very)private post please. I need some advice or sense knockin…
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Hi can I have a (very)private post please.
I need some advice or sense knocking into me if possible please!
I found out about 8 weeks ago my husband had been having an affair for the last 18 months (our daughter is 17 months old). He’s been away with work since I found out but have made it very clear he won’t be welcome here (this is his house though) and I have plans in place to move after Christmas. He’s made no attempt to reconcile or anything like that it is well and truly over. He’s planning on moving his new girlfriend and her sons to be with him, even before we’ve left or discussed any arrangements for his actual family! He’s been spending time with her children met her family, been on holidays etc. So anyway, I had been suspecting for quite a while, he has truly awful to us for months now and I think I had been waiting for the final straw if I’m honest …and although it was a massive shock I hadn’t felt all that heartbroken or upset, only for my children. I feel the most stressful part of this is not the heartbreak it’s the admin side of things , the house, the money , seeing the children etc. And all that I can deal with.
So anyway, the last couple of weeks I’ve been getting extremely close with a man who is also going through a separation with his wife (I know this is true having spoken to his (ex?)wife previously so no worries there) I’m just not sure how much of this is genuine or are we both just in such f*****d up situations that we are cushioning the blow with each other ? I feel like I’m completely numb in regards to feelings for my husband, I haven’t felt anything for him in a very long time, yet I feel like I should be feeling something now, I should be devastated but I’m not!! But I feel really strongly for this other man who is actually amazing. Is this just misplaced emotion?? I was with my husband ten years. I’m sure my brain is broken. I’m not even sure what my actual question is I suppose I just need some words of advice/support/anything really, I don’t have many friends that I can talk to.
Any words of wisdom would be much appreciated!xxx
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