Hiya. Can you post please? I was just wondering if anyone had any advice about …


Hiya. Can you post please?

I was just wondering if anyone had any advice about my lose/lose situation.
Without getting too much in to it. I’m unsure whether to take my daughters dad to court for contact.
I have even mediation, he refuses to mediate, so I do now have my certificate in order to apply to the courts.
But should I do it or not is my question?
My daughter is 4 and her father has only been present for about 9 months of her life, and that was when she was 3.
He doesn’t respond to any texts I send him about wanting to see her so I’m kind of at a dead end.
If I take it to court, the judge cannot force him to have contact. So I could pay thousands to not get anything out of it, which I really can’t afford as I’m a single mum working a part time job and there is no legal aid for in court anymore.
Or secondly, as we have arranged something between ourselves before, the judge could tell us both to mediate, but once again – the judge cannot force him to do this.

I just don’t know where to go from here. I think I’ve done everything I possibly can to try and arrange this contact but he’s just not playing ball anymore. Which is upsetting because as he came into our daughters life at a age where she remembers, she’s constantly asking for him and saving he doesn’t like her anymore because he doesn’t want to see her – and I’m the one suffering the back lash of it, as well as my daughter.
If it could be guaranteed that a court order would be granted I would hands down do it, but it’s the uncertainty of it.
I physically don’t have the money either way, but i would make ends meets if I knew something would come from it, but as it’s very much 50/50 I don’t know what to do.

Had anyone got any advice or been in this situation before??
Any comments would be appreciated!!

Thanks xx


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