I have been with my partner nearly 3 years he’s always been controlling in certain ways.
Last month he woke me up at 4am and started touching me, me and him very rarely have sex because every time I come onto him he never wants it and when we do its on his terms, his way or the high way.
But he carried on touching me. I laid there pretending to be a sleep for a while longer.
Then he pulled my pants down. At this point I knew i couldn’t fake sleep anymore. Soon as I opened my eyes he said let me put it in your arse.
I said no. He carried on. I said no. He continued to try I said no I don’t want to, I shouted STOP
I then tried to roll over… he held my arms …
And then continued.
It really upset me.
I felt broken
I felt like I had been violated.
But it can’t be rape we are in a relationship
The next day I couldn’t get the incident out of my mind, I felt dirty and must have had at least 6 showers that day, I was fearful and sad, and this increased when I heard his car pull into the drive, I couldn’t look at him.
I decided two days after the attack that it was 100% not my fault and just because I was in a relationship with him does not give him the right to my body, I was raped!!!
Yes I reported, No he wasn’t convicted but I was free, I was safe and he knew he had done wrong.
I just want other woman to know that if you are in a relationship that does not give your partner the right to touch you or sleep with you without your consent, NO means NO!
On the Mums Advice Blog you will find our stories, some great recipes, a bit of fun, some bargains in our shopping section and all your stories from our facebook page. Comment and share, keep the discussion going. We discuss some serious issues and some light hearted ones, share some funny memes and some heartbreaking stories. If you have a story you would like to share email it to us email@example.com, if your story is published we'll send you a love to shop voucher. Don't forget you can now follow us on twitter and facebook. We do not pretend to be doctors, lawyers, financial consultants however we have been asked to state this page is for your information only. Its advice offered is purely for your guidance and does not replace any medical opinion or advice given. If you are unsure about anything suggested please make your own informed choice. We take no responsibility for any advice given.