My Wife has never actually touched my e.nis
So this is the first time I have ever done this.
So My wife and I are both 32 years old and have been together for about 10 years, and married for 7 years. We had both had a few partners before we were together.
We have a great relationship and love and care for each other.
The only problem is that when we have sex she doesn’t touch me. not once in the whole time we have been together has she ever touched me or given me oral.
I haven’t bothered too much about it until now. Yea I long for head or even just to have her hold my member in her hand.
See the thing is she never ever talks about sex. I have tried to talk to her and she gets embarrassed and shuts down.
When we have sex I always am the one doing the foreplay. It is very one-sided. I kiss her everywhere, I touch her, I give her oral, and pleasure her and she goes wild for it. But she never touches me. I have tried directing her hand down there and she stops. I have dealt with it for years, but now it is becoming a problem because when we start a session I do the usual foreplay but because it is getting a bit boring not receiving and feels a bit unfair I loose the erection before we can even have sex. It is happening more often now and it is leading to having less and less sex. she takes offence to the loss of erection.
Because it is happening more often I am getting performance anxiety which is creating a huge problem.
I am now so sexually frustrated and have even considered straying. Not that I ever would but am finding myself fantasising about it.
Anyone in the same boat or have any advice?