Please may I have a private post…
Please no bashing!
Advise would be much appreciated especially from experience!
My husband and I have been separated for almost 3 years and he has finally got his his own place. He has been staying at his mums and then staying at mine a couple of nights a week as we have 3 children together.
We have been together 15 Years! Our children are 14, 12 and 7 and one with autism. For the sake of our child with autism and our youngest we have told them daddy is working away and not moved out hence coming back twice a week! Our eldest knows the truth… he’s upset but he’s ok!
Now he has his own place we have to tell them properly. My husband told them he got it with his new job for working away which didn’t help and our daughter was like ‘but your not divorcing or anything are you?’ It was the wrong time and place to discuss and I just shook my head and said no!
They know they will be staying there sometimes and I know kids aren’t stupid but we really do need to have ‘the conversation’ with them and tell them that we are separated and we are divorcing and we will live separately but I don’t know where to start!!
Has anyone had this experience and found a way that was…. I don’t know maybe easier or…. I don’t know what I’m looking for as this is going to be soooo god damn hard but any advise would be really helpful and appreciated!
Thank you in advance x