PPP. Truly stumped and worried. Do I report someone to social work if I think they’re going to crack and hurt themselves or the kids?
A close friend has just had her 4th child and she’s just turned 22, first 3 kids have major behavioural problems as they saw mum and dad violently attack each other my friend being violent and she abused her partner but he only gets 2 hour visits 2 2 of the kids. She got signed off from social work last year due to how it effected the kids and she couldn’t cope. Although she has me or another friend stay every night to get her kids fed, bathed and put to bed as she can’t cope alone. She got pregnant to her new “boyfriend” within 2 weeks of being together and he didn’t want the baby, works away refuses to move in with her, is possibly still doing drugs, illegally works bringing £1000s a month while claiming benefits for his own home he doesn’t use apart 1 night every 6-8 weeks when he appears back and has his kids from a previous relationship. He is only with her maybe 3-4 nights every 2 or 3 months and doesn’t help any other time. I forgot he also has warrants out for his arrest. She’s been breaking down in the shops leaving the 4 kids, breaking down at school and refuses to go to the doctor or health visitor for help. She is constantly causing issues with her “boyfriends” family refusing to let most of them see the child and takes tantrums if his mum goes out with her daughter or daughter in law (her daughter in law is just her 4th daughter they’re inseparable also she has over 10 biological granbabies to help with) my friend can’t handle it she pushes her kids in and refuses to leave until his mum keeps the kids or she just dumps the baby at his sisters at times without even a bottle or nappy. I spoke to that sister she’s also a friend she said she’s scared to leave the baby with my friend or her other children as the kids destroy everything and constantly hurt each other babies only 8 weeks.
We have been friends since primary school and she refuses any help, I stay 4 to 7 nights a week while working 12 hour shifts and have my own home and do everything for her, she doesn’t even do housework anymore. I can’t leave her at nights as she’s in a dark way her “boyfriends” useless he doesn’t do anything apart from sleep at her house for sex when he’s here he doesn’t even help with her other kids. Advice please do I ruin my friendship?