It’s a bad day, not a bad life.
Not every day is easy
Not every day is a “good day”
Today is one of them days
The feelings of helplessness because you can’t settle your baby
They soon turn into feelings of guilt and doubt
“Why can’t I settle her, what am I doing so wrong”
Then the toddler starts being mischievous and a general toddler “why can’t he just behave, why does he have to touch everything I tell him not to”
Again, feelings of guilt – these children deserve better than what you’re providing
The added stress social media causes because I have the overwhelming need to ‘prove’ to a bunch of strangers, friends and everything in between that I’m coping and that I have this whole parenting thing under control
Assuming those closest to you are judging you when you’re honest about not coping, or assuming they can see through your mask of lies
Asking my mum to take the kids so I can attend to my personal hygiene and housework – again cue the overwhelming guilt that I’m not spending enough time with my own children
My husband returns from work, only for me to thrust the children on to him so I can start tea, in my head trying to justify it as acceptable because I’m cooking everyone their tea and feeding them like the good wife and mother
But this guilt returns “he’s had a hard day at work, providing for his family. Give the man a break”
In hindsight, I can recognise that I’m my own biggest critic and it is my presumptions that cause the guilt and not in fact anybody’s opinion. I also recognise that I overlook the good moments on a bad day and don’t give myself the credit that overall, I’ve managed and today is just one day
It’s a bad day, not a bad life.
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I can so relate to this! Or you give them the tablet for 5 minutes of peace and then feel guilty for not playing some educational game with them!
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