Can I get a private post please. Does anyone have any advice or experience in d…
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Does anyone have any advice or experience in dealing with something like this. Me and partner are expecting our first baby next week and for some reason his mum seems to thinks she’s invited to the birth, to the point she’s telling everyone that she’s going to be there. I’m really not comfortable with her being there and we’ve both even told her it’s just going to be us, I mean I wouldn’t even want my own mum there. I’m not tying to be ungrateful or anything but it’s our first baby and I want this special moment just for the 2 of us, I wouldn’t even mind her coming into the room 5 minutes after our little has arrived. She invited herself along to the first 2 scans, which I allowed as it’s her first grandchild and I understand she’s really excited but how am I suppose to explain to her that I don’t want her anywhere near the room when the time comes? I’m more than happy to tell her that and even tell the midwives to keep her away but every time one of us brings it up she acts so hurt and then 5 minutes later she thinks she’s going again. Any help is appreciated, it’s driving me nuts!
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Don’t tell her when you are in labour – call her when it’s over. Sorry, but you’ve told her on numerous occasions. If she doesn’t get it, that’s her problem.
My mil did this with my first. I banned my husband from telling her when I was in labour. We rang her when my son was about 2 hours old and told her she could come up at visiting time. Best decision we ever made! She got the hint with my 2nd! Xx
I wouldn’t tell her when you go into labour, she’s being ignorant and ignoring yours and your partner’s wishes.. I understand that she is excited, which what’s not to be excited about, new baby!!! 😝
Would your partner be willing to speak to her one on one to try and get the message through?
I luckily was never in this position, but personally I only wanted my partner and I and that’s what we did. Good luck! X
Agree dont tell her when your in labour 🙂 we never told people although they had a feeling i was going soon but they didnt know until my partner called his mum etc
You have told her more than once so she really cant be mad. X
I got myself so worked up about this during my pregnancy I didn’t want everyone crowding in the room soon as my boy was born I had waited 9 month to meet him so I wanted to have time with him myself so I told everyone I didn’t want them up the hospital and we would call them when we’re ready just be honest it’s your baby your choice xx
Tbh, just say what you’ve wrote.
Be straight up with her.
Better than lying, getting caught out and then it being an awkward issue for a time afterwards xx
Just be honest, say you want the special moment but she’s welcome to meet her baby straight after, or wait in the family room or something x
When I had my daughter we had to write on the back page of our pregnancy book all the things you want like epidural if want it and had to name the people who where allowed to be in the room (only allowed 2) so I had to put down babies dad and my mum. Anyone else who tried was refused by the midwives. At my last midwife appointment we were told we had to have the names down or no one would be allowed in.
Lmao I like the whole “for some reason” part!! Haha MIL’s aye!! Just let her know you’d prefer her to not be face on with your vagina 😂 and you’d also like to have the special moment to the two of you! I had the same with my last – people popping in as my legs were sprawled open and this time I expect all phones to be switched off and none of us will be notifying a soul 😂👌🏽
Yep mother in law from hell I had when she was told no over anything we didn’t like she would kick off I mean kick off like a child lol and wouldn’t come see my kids ….. Safe to say I’m glad she has stayed away now and doesn’t bother seeing her 3 grandchildren. Hate hate interfering MIL its none of their business yes first grandchild but she has to relise it’s Your first baby too! Stick your foot down and just say no. If you sugar coat it she will keep trying. It’s your private moment that she shouldn’t be involved in if you don’t want her too! X
Same happened to me, but I went into labour at her house! But eventually my mum came down and it was me and my partner that went down to theatre just put the foot down and say no! You have your own choice to take whoever you want and you want to take your partner! I only wanted my partner but that didn’t happen! But please don’t let her feelings get in the way, even if you sit and speak just you too and say I’m sorry but I only want myself and your partner x
Just tell the midwives that you want no one but ur partner in the delivery they wont let her in BUT you might change ur mind midway & want a female there (we been through this our selves with my mam & by the time i was 7cm i wanted her) cx
It’s her 1st she’s probley so excited bless her but yh just tell midwife to say no one can go in. I wouldn’t not tell her your in labour x
Just tell the midwives that u don’t want her there if she turns up.
i wouldnt tell her when u go into labour and just ring her once baby has arrived 🙂 dont let it stress you out
Don’t tell her you’re in labour and tell the staff that you only want your partner there.
Just dont tell her when you’re in labour??