can I have a post please. it not baby related bar with me it a long one. I have …

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can I have a post please. it not baby related bar with me it a long one. I have known my partner my whole life and his family. we got toghter 18m ago.
me and my partner are dicussing him moving in with me but have a few issues that all cone down to his dad.
my partner is 25 the oldest of 5 children and the only one to live at home still. his Mam and dad spilt up several years ago when he was a teenager. he suffered what I would say was abuse (being hit having to be home to watch his siblings done all the housework shopping washing ext while his dad Sat around on computer games and yelled or hit he says it normal and not abuse them it drive my partner to selfhatm as a teenager)
now my partner worked hard in school and got a job. and got help for self harming and depression. all his siblings moved at at 16 so just him now with his dad. my partner works 40 hours a week while his dad refuses to get a job and gets universals credits his reason for not working is dyslexica. though he can spend all day online gaming or at biker rallys
the home they have is a council house and at the moment my partner is not on the tenancy as his dad won’t allow him to be.
he paying £90 rent all the council tax and water rates and on top give his dad
£40 board buys all the shopping
pays the phone and internet bills
and pays 150 every 3 months for gas and electric
in my mind I think he is supporting his dad as he basically pays all bills (unless I think.o might be forgetting something) his dad’s brings all go on getting to bike really and on bike parts week and cigarettes
my partner told his dad 4 weeks ago we where looking for a place (been toghter 18m) I am in a 1 bed atm and moving as it to small for me and my son and we want to move together so thought it made science to just look together now rather than move now and again in a year or so.
his dad has told him he not allowed to move out that if he does he will be abandoning him and he wouldn’t be able to afford his home so he would either be made homeless or starve to death and it would be all his fault. he is now demanding access to my partners bank and taking all his savings that was meant to go on our fees for a new place when we find one. he has got my partner feeling like he carnt move as if something does happen it will be his fault. it causing my partner to become very depressed and hes barley eatting or sleeping I have tried to explain to him that if of his dad gets universal universals credits he has enough to eat and pay his bills though he may not be able to afford his drugs or bike things and if he wants them that bad he should get a job.
could people please let me know what u would do in this situation either if u where him or me??
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