Can I have a private post please. I have 2 daughters, both have different fathe…

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Can I have a private post please.

I have 2 daughters, both have different fathers. The father of my eldest rarely bothers with her unless it suits, never comes to any of her dance shows, parents evenings, he has her one afternoon every other weekend – and that depends on if my daughter wants to go visit him. Since she was around 3, he hasnt really been there for her unless things are his way on his terms. She’s almost 9 so I let her have her own say on certain things that directly involves her. The father to my youngest is fantastic, a brilliant step dad to her and looks out for her like he is her own.

I’ve been thinking lately that if anything happened to me, my eldest would go to live with her dad, and my youngest with hers. They would rarely see eachother, and my eldest would end up being cut off from most of her family. The thought of this destroys me, many things have happened over the years, and things involving her step mum and step brother which makes me fear this ever happening. Is there any way that I can keep my girls together should anything happen to me? I know adoption is an option, but the dad would never agree to this, and I would never want to force that to happen either. Has anyone been in this position who could give some advice? If your comment is constructive then thanks in advance, if it’s bitchy then save your time and don’t bother 😂
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