Can I have a private post please, my children’s father has started having them e…
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Can I have a private post please, my children’s father has started having them every two weeks over the weekend after not bothering with them, I’ve been paying him £70 to have them? I’ve put my foot down and told him enoughs enough, but he seems to think he’s entitled to the Money but its “shared custody”. Am I wrong or should be finally be providing for his own children when he has them? He doesn’t pay me a penny towards anything 😏
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You’ve been what?!?! That’s disgusting! Stop paying him! He’s supposed to be paying you to maintain your children especially if he’s only having them JUST every bloody fortnight!! This post has absolutely stunned me!!
Do not give him a penny. Sounds as though hes only taking them to get money from you. Shared custody is when you have them equaivalent amount of time not 2 nights every fortnight. Thats access. You should be claiming cms from him for them regardless of how often he sees them. Its roughly 16 percent of his wages. If he has them more than 52 nights a year then they will reduced it slightly. X
Omg you have to love some of these men. Mine tries the same sort of things!! NO you should not give him a penny for his own kids especially if he isn’t paying maintenance and £70 what the hell he feeding them lobster?? Why can’t fathers just want to spend time with their kids x
Someone I know tried to get the mum to give him a percentage of the child benefit for the 4 days in the month he had the kid. Whilst not paying a single penny himself for the other 20 odd days a month the child was with its mum. Some people’s judgement is outrageous
Dont give him another penny, you shouldnt be paying him ots his duty to provide whist they are in his care! Shared custory means where the child resides, he should be supportung you and contributing to their existence effectively taking money from them to have them xx and to add 70 to geed em for two days how many kids are there do they eat steak and caviar, hes having u in x
When me and my ex first split up he used to plead poverty all the time. He would say that he didn’t have enough money to feed the kids so he couldn’t have them. I would give him £30/£40 so he had enough to buy food. After a while I would go and do a food shop for him to cover what the kids needed for the weekend instead, he actually once moaned that I’d forgot to buy butter lol. I had to stop doing it in the end because I couldn’t afford to carry it on. I look back now and wonder why I was so stupid lol. He never pays any maintenance or anything either and we’ve been separated 7 years in October!! X
Is he real!!! I would never pay my kids father for him to have them especially if he doesn’t pay me a penny. Why are u paying him?? Does he class it as babysitting his own kids?… what a joke of a man.. he helped create them so tell him to take his finger out of his arse and do his job to provide. And if he walks away that will show ur children his true colours, hopefully he will take u to court so a judge can laugh in his face and then make him pay u maintenance. What a douche Haha!!!
Paying a man to have his own children!!! Dont you dare, its his responsibility to pay whilst he has them! Every fortnight? Tell him to piss right off hun! He should be paying you for doing his job too raising and supporting the children you BOTH had. Shared custody is having your child alot more than every bloody fortnight!
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Why is it the guy is always the bad guy? It doesnt say if he works or not? If he doesnt work he wouldnt be paying for the kids if she hasnt gone through CMA to have it stopped out of his benefits.
If he was paying i think it would be reasonable to say he shouldnt have to pay for the time he has them so why is it an outrage when a mother pays for her children when she doesnt have them?
So wrong of him, if you had them 50/50 then you both should get nothing. But him having them ever two weeks he should be paying you and paying for them while in his care x
That is NOT shared custody and stop paying him immediately he might only be seeing the kids for the money…call his bluff!
Don’t give him another penny hun! If he won’t give you money towards them the least he came do is pay for them when he has them! He’s totally taken you for a mug hun, well and truly put the foot down!xx
My ex asked 4 money when he had them as couldn’t afford 2 feed em. I refused 2 give him money but sent the kids with food 4 the weekend. Bread, milk, cereal bits 4 meals. Least I knew kids was getting fed. Shouldn’t have 2 pay the dad 2 c his kids.
This is my post, I put it up to prove a point, thank you all, i dont want a penny from him i just want to stop having to hand out to him👌💯
He should be paying you money! You’ve got them more of the time than him I’m sure shared custody is 50/50 not 90/10 🙄 he’s probably only having them for the money
Omg. He’s not their babysitter or child minder, he’s their parent! Does he pay you to have them? Don’t do it, What a shit for trying to insist you should! X
Uv been paying him? No thats not right if he takes them then he pays for them end off story! Guy saw u coming so he did but its only natural for a mum to do that to make sure their fed n stuff bit it no I’d stop and tell him if he’s not paying then he’s not seeing them cause that’s not fair in the slightest! Xx
Omg he should be paying you that’s not shared custody as your having them mojourity of the time. Post has actually shocked me
Wtf.. no you should not give him money.. he should provide for then when he has them.. and if you are the main carer that they live with he should pay child support if you want to pursue it xx
You can message me if you want I have been through and still going through so here if I can help xx
He should be paying you ! 10-15% of his earnings month! Can’t believe he’s had you paying him !!
Omg he’s having you on no you shouldn’t be giving him
Money to have them what a complete twat!
If he only sees them 2 days out of 14 then yes these ladies are right… get on to c m s and see what he thinks then
Why are you paying him to look after his own kids especially when he doesn’t pay you anything and you have them the most
That is so wrong 😡😡 x