Can I have a private post please… My ex is taking me to a mediation. What is …
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My ex is taking me to a mediation. What is this? And what will they do? I’m so worried. It’s all because I won’t let my 2 year old sleep over. He has him every other weekend Saturday and Sunday 10am-4pm just not the Saturday night. My reasons include…
* Don’t know the address of where he is staying because he won’t give it to me.
* When he was staying he was getting upset and clingy when he was going and coming home. He would be angry, crying and grumpy when coming home.
* I’d struggle to get him to bed, he’d normally go at 7pm, after staying I wouldn’t be able to calm him down and get him to bed till 9pm/10pm and he wouldn’t sleep in his own bed all night he’d be unsettled and come in with me. Since not staying he’s been going to bed 7pm in his own bed/room and sleeping all night until 7am.
* Every time he picks him up he’s screaming crying and clinging to me as if he doesn’t want to go.
I found online that under 4 year olds shouldn’t stay over night and that it can reduce brain development and cause attachment issues which I don’t want as he starts nursery soon so want him to be happy and confident.
What are my rights? What will the mediation people do? Xx
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They won’t actually do anything, they’ll just encourage you both to talk it out and come up with a plan to avoid going through solicitors; it’s like the first step. Hopefully they can encourage him to ease your concerns like disclose where he lives etc and come up with a care plan for when you lb is in his care so set bed time etc. What I would advise is that you come up with a plan of a few months leading up to overnight stays. Unless he’s a threat to the child, it’s unlikely that you’ll be able to avoid overnight stays forever, so the best thing to do is air your concerns and put a plan together that you’re comfortable with and that he’s willing to stick to xx
I went for a mediation appointment 1st was with me then I should of had 2 with my ex 1st meeting would be to discuss Day contact second would be to discuss overnight contact I didn’t know where he was living and lots of other issues he’s 3 he txt me the week before we was due to go and asked to talk outside solicitors he agreed to Day contact which glad about as the solicitor said no matter what I said or how I felt a judge will go with him as he’s his dad my views or concerns was a waste of time
Mediation is where you go to discuss contact and that. It’s the step before court but will only go to court if you both can’t agree. If it does go to court I won’t worry but explain in mediation how upset your little one was getting that’s why you won’t allow him to stay over. They can’t just take your ex side but they won’t do much as he’s already having contact. Hope this helps
Mediation is the first step is were you and your ex should come to an agreement or it Gose to court the people are only there so things don’t get nusty
What ever you do dont let them push you into agreeing to him terms I would suggest get some advice form a solicitor befor you go you can normally get.this free make sure you make it clear to the mediator what you want and dont sign anything with out discussing it with a neutral party