Can I have a private post please? Need some advice on if I’m being out of order …

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Can I have a private post please? Need some advice on if I’m being out of order or not. Basically me and my partner have a almost 4 year old and a 4 month old. I was mostly a single mum up until about 18 months ago. Very on and off. Since then we have been very settled moved house. He works I don’t. He works shifts so one week night shift 10pm-6am, one week early shift 6am-2pm then late shift 2pm-10pm. 4 year old only started sleeping through last year and wakes up at 5.30 no matter what I do. Baby doesn’t sleep well at night, she settles fine knows it’s bedtime and sleeps solid for the first 3 hours but then is awake a lot in the night. She has a set routine and it’s been this from day 1 and as I said she settles fine it’s just later in the night. Well when he is on a late shift I have asked him to do one night as he can lay in the next day and the other shifts one night at the weekend. He acts like I’ve asked him to do such a massive thing, that I’m a horrible person. I’ve tried talking to him and saying I am exhausted and I just need that one night a week. I explained I’d be a better person to be around as wouldn’t be so moody. And that if things carry on this way I’m not going to be able to cope. Baby has reflux and is very fussy during the day too. I try so hard to please everyone and it just feels like I’m just the woman who does everything and I don’t matter to him at all. I did kick off a few weeks ago as it got too much and said I was leaving and he helped all weekend then just suddenly went back to how he has always been. Am I wrong for asking for help one night a week?
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