Can I have a private post please So I’ve got a 5 year old little boy and he’s …
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Can I have a private post please
So I’ve got a 5 year old little boy and he’s seriously out of control of things don’t go his way he starts to break things for example a few nights ago he went to be and I told him he could have half an hour tv time because he had school the next day I heard him playing with his toys so I told him if he doesn’t get in bed and I hear him again the tv goes of he then started to play again so I turned his tv off he started the kick the tv his bed the walls screaming the house down I just tried to ignore him he eventually went to sleep then over the weekend my partner (who’s not his dad) asked him to get dressed as we were going out he wouldn’t so I asked him he would which resulted in him getting into trouble and being asked to get dressed again my partner walked past his room my 5 year old then squared up to him and growled at him for a good minute I told him off and asked him not to do that to anybody again as soon as I left his room he came out and did it to my partner again I was absolutely furious this concerns me as this is what my little brother was like at his age he then went on to physically abuse my mum .. I’ve tried everything from sending him to his room to taking his privileges away etc I just don’t know what to do anymore I don’t like the child he’s become I can’t take him out anyway because he just acts up everywhere we go I’m at my wits end his real dad doesn’t see him hasn’t for years due to DV in the relationship SS advice was to not have contact unless he takes me to court I just don’t know what to do anymore ! Sorry for the long post
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His behaviour has been like this for the last couple of years the not listening isn’t the biggest problem it’s the smashing things and raising his hands to people he won’t let me read to him before bed he’s not allowed on any games I don’t think they are appropriate for a child his age he knows now if he has to be told more than once there’s consequences he’s pre warned about this for example if we eat out and messes with food I ask him not to do it or we will go to the car and go home where he will have time out he will then proceed to do it again I do follow through with everything I say I don’t know why he’s like this just constantly disobeying me
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He’s already in year one at primary school and his behaviour isn’t the best there either I’ve been called in a few times now or had phone calls at home because his behaviour isn’t up to standard there either
Go to gp and ask for a referral to peads Hun, the things that stand out to me is sudden change=meltdown and the lack of sleep, my LG is ADHD and conventional parenting does not work, we have had to seriously adapt our discipline tactics, we use reward charts for good behaviour, ignore undesirable behaviour unless it’s likely to hurt herself or someone else, we use visual aids and extremely regimented routine. TV also stimulates the brain making it hard to sleep. My LG has melatonin to help her settle of a night time.
If this is a recent change in behaviour think about things that have maybe changed around him. Could there be a problem at school? Does he play console games that aren’t age appropriate? Does he watch programmes with violence in them?? The not doing as he’s told it pretty typical behaviour for a 5 year old. I would sit him down and explain how you expect him to behave and the consequences off him not doing as he’s told. I would take the tv out his room and read a story at bedtime instead. If he wants to play for a little bit I wouldn’t worry too much as long as he is in his room and it’s not to late. Sometimes you have to pick your battles and you need to make sure you and your partner are on the same page. Sometimes what happens is something you accept your partner won’t and visa versa which can be confusing. Have a set punishment for certain actions so you and your partner do the same and also stick to it. We all have days when sometimes we just let it go but for now until you get it under control you need to stick with punishments. Also speak to his teacher at school and see what they do as punishments for certain behaviours that you can use at home so it’s consistent between the 2. Kids are a mystery sometimes you have to go with the flow. If you think it could be anything else other than just misbehaving then always worth a trip to the docs
I’d suggest seing a dr maybe or a councillor specially before he starts primary school
Firstly, ditch the tv in his bedroom. It can be very difficult going to sleep if you have the temptation of watching tv (like us with phones in beds) and just be consistent with any punishment. Explain why its wrong and ask him about what he did and what he should do differently next time. That way he’s having to address it head on.
Ask the school about speaking with a school counsilor for him An getting some advice of them on how best to deal with this situation, every kids works differently An responds differently to diff methods, I’m having a similar problem at moment but he’s not naughty at school but has anxiety issues I think an it’s interfering with his learning a bit and we’ve been told by teacher to have counsilinf wirh the school and then in few months see a physiologist but in the mean time we’ve had to make a good routine at home An be persistent with it An discipline An we’ve gone from him being super naughty at home An fighting to get things done An attitude etc An thenroutine and discipline has been working an he’s not getting so agitated cause he knows what we except now An what we won’t tollerate. Always follow through with punishment u tell him to stop carrying on and if he does that thing to ur partner one more time there’s no tv for 2 days An stick to it or take away something else he really likes the first week is the hardest but they soon learn
What does the school senco say ??
He might have adhd see your doctor and his nursery teacher. X