Can I have a private post please? I need advice on bad behaviour. My son is 4 a…
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I need advice on bad behaviour. My son is 4 and for the last 9 months or so has been hitting. Not just the occasional lash out, it’s every day, several times a day. On a rare occasion he’ll hit his dad but other than that it’s always me. He’s burst my lip and leaves marks and bruises on me. When I try and ask him why (once he’s calmed down) he always responds with I didn’t do anything, I was just moving my arm, it was you, you made me angry and he gets angry/upset again. I feel like I’ve tried everything. I’ve bought books that I read to him about feeling angry and how to deal with it, I’ve tried quiet time, ignoring him, talking calmly, time out, taking toys away, no treats, dad telling him off. I’m feeling like a failure, like maybe it is me and I’m doing something wrong. I don’t think I nag (that much!) I give constant praise when he’s good and am forever telling him how much I love him but I feel like my son hates me. Any advice for a mum at her wits end would be greatly appreciated!
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It sounds to me like he is lashing out because something is worrying him but the question is what? Is he in nursery or school? Are there any problems there. Or is a family member upsetting him in some way. Usually kids that age lash out because something is wrong and they can’t express it. Try playing a game with figures if you have them and see if he can express it that way. If that doesn’t work, try drawing or even talking and asking what’s upsetting him. Kids usually take it out on the ones closest to them because they’re mostly with you. Hope you get it sorted soon x