Can I have an anonymous post please? My son is 16, lives with me & is in full …
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Can I have an anonymous post please?
My son is 16, lives with me & is in full time education. He’s an absolute delight of a lad, handsome, intelligent, sporty & most of all respectable.
The issue we have lies with his biological father, he lives just a few miles from us but is not interested in having any contact with our boy?! My son had a a fantastic relationship with his paternal grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins etc. They cannot understand why he chose to take nothing to do with him either!
My ex lives with his partner & her daughter & raised her as his own (we have no issue with this what so ever).
He paid not a penny for our boy until I sought advice from the CSA a few years back & he now has £18 per fortnight taken from his wages. I don’t use this money, I pay it directly to my son’s savings account that he knows nothing of.
I believe child support is calculated on a percentage of the parents earnings. I have been told from a colleague of my ex’s that he brags about his partner working in the wages dept of his employers & that she only puts some of his earning through the books so he doesn’t have to pay any more to our son!
He has not seen or spoke to our boy for 2 years, the last was when we walked past him in a shopping centre.
My son would like to drop his surname & use my surname as he doesn’t wish to be named after him.
So my question is, how can I go about proving his fraudulent working hours / non payment of tax & of my son does change his name will his biological father still be eligible to pay towards his upbringing?
Sorry for the long winded post ladies 😘
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Just report what you’ve been told plus his partner’s name to csa so they can investigate and can talk to his boss about how much he earns. Give them as much information as you can because the more they know the better for your son. Also contact inland revenue, you can do this anonymously. Name change of your son doesn’t change his paternity so shouldn’t stop the fathers eligibility xx
The name change I’m sure you can do but from the money side is it worth causing problems and risking getting nothing by grassing him up?? It seems you obviously save the money for your son so you don’t need it to raise him. Personally I wouldn’t bother and keep taking what he gives you just now. They could both lose their jobs and then you get less money
Now he is 16 he can change his name by deed pole without fathers permission..
As for the fraudulent behaviour, unless you have proof there’s not alot you can do other than inform tax office about the information you are aware of, and they will do their own investigation and make decisions themselves.. xx
Changing his last name wont effect child support let the kids do what he wants with that. He is also old enough to tell a judge he wants it changed and why. The father cant fight it even if he finds out
if you call the csa you can request a review of his earnings you can do this yearly also report to HMRC regarding the fraud with as much info that you have they will look into it an if they think somethings not right they will investigate
What a dick, both him and her actually 😫 you are obviously raising a wonderful boy carry on, but I’d certainly be passing my concerns to CSA, as for name change at 16 he can decide himself x
If ure son was born on or before may 2006 then u can BY LAW change his name on birth certificate WITHOUT bio dads permission xx