Can I have ppp Hey ladies, I need some help. I have been with my partner for …
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Can I have ppp
Hey ladies, I need some help.
I have been with my partner for six months. We worked together up until last week. As he has a new job, an such. He worked at the place a year longer than I did. But he had feelings for a woman and was honest about it which was fine. I actually really get on with this woman and she is a nice person. He came round my house through the week and dropped on me that he wanted to keep a friendship going as she was a good mate. Which I was okay with. But then he went on to say he was gonna ask if she wanted go for coffee or something sometime in the future to catch up an stuff but then I was like what the hell? He for one has never in six months taken me or asked me out once. As he kinda suffers from anxiety and said where is there to go? Yet, he puts enough effort into wanting to make plans with this friend. Like I ain’t even worth the effort. Its always me asking him places and done almost everything to entertain us. He said he still occasionally gets a feeling for this woman. And now he’s leaving it’s brought it up. As he wants to stay in contact as shes a good mate. And I have nothing to worry about. We are on a break right now because I can’t help but feel hurt. Which he understands. But says i should trust him because hes with me. And he isn’t gonna not keep in contact with this girl regardless of what I think or feel because its my problem and issue I don’t trust him. As he sees no issue cause she is just a friend. Everytime I think about it, it really upsets me. I feel like I am going mad. As he said he still wants to live his life and have mates an such which i totally understand. But it feels like hes doing it for more than he will admit to. This woman is in a relationship of her own and he said he wouldnt interfere in her life as its only a friendship he wants to have. She is a lovely person and she isn’t the issue its him and knowing how he felt or still slightly harbours. I know I should trust him but its so hard as it is tearing me apart inside. What would you do? End it or continue because I know they will go out for a catch up in the future and I don’t think I can be okay with it. He’s basically said he wont stop living his life just because it makes me feel like crap or uncomfortable.
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We are work colleagues but he talks to her more than I do. And I am closer to other people in the job. We are more of a in work thing. I never speak to her out of work. I am leaving also in a month. So will be staying in touch with the other ones I am closer to. The problem is he says he will do whatever he wants anyways.
To be honest he admits he still gets feelings for her and doesnt suggest taking u out. Id finish it yiur worth so much more than him. Go with your gut instinct your on a break as cant trust him nithing will change that xx
Basically what he’s saying is, nothings going on between them right now because she doesn’t want it! If ever she did he’d be like 👋🏻 “cya” to you and be off with her! He’s an opportunist, he’s not going to cut contact with her because one day she might let his slimey arse out the friend zone! But until then he’ll make do with you … tell him to piss off love 😒
Well if she’s your work mate too, you can both meet her for a catch up at the same time…