Commitment Is Not What Everyone Thinks It Is

Commitment is not what everyone thinks it is. It’s not waking up early every morning to make breakfast and eating together. It’s not cuddling in bed together until both of you peacefully fall asleep. It’s not a clean home and a homemade meal every day, It’s not skipping down the streets holding hands or laying on the beach staring up at the stairs.

It’s someone who steals all the covers. It’s sometimes slammed doors, and a few harsh words, disagreeing, and the silent treatment until your hearts heal, It’s the small stuff, the pants on the floor, the washing up not done, the snoring. Then…forgiveness!

It’s coming home to the same person everyday that you know loves and cares about you, in spite of and because of who you are. It’s laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It’s about dirty laundry and unmade beds without finger-pointing. It’s about helping each other with the hard work of life, the wanting to fix each others problems! It’s about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud, the laughing at each others faults rather than moaning about them.

It’s about eating the cheapest and easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at 10 p.m. to eat because you both had a crazy day. It’s when you have an emotional breakdown, and your love lays with you and holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay, and you believe them. It’s when “Netflix and chill” literally means you watch Netflix and hang out. It’s about still loving someone even though sometimes they make you absolutely insane.

Living with the person you love is not perfect, and sometimes it’s hard, but it’s amazing and comforting and one of the best things you’ll ever experience.