Hello, I saw a post yesterday/earlier on today about how a girl and her mum aren…

[ad_1]
Hello, I saw a post yesterday/earlier on today about how a girl and her mum aren’t getting on so well, been wanting to actually post about my experience for a while but have been too scared but I suppose that post jolted me into doing it so if it’s ok can I have a private post please?

I have been having major issues with my mum ever since I can remember. She was a single mum and I am an only child and ever since I was young enough to remember I have never been close to be mum and was always scared of her; I have never had any encouragement and always been told I was a mistake, but she would always try to make things better by buying me stuff or holidays etc. Things started to come to a head when I was 18 my mum pushed me and I split my head open, that’s when I moved out for the first time to my friends. I wanted to go to uni but my mum played the guilt card and said I was mean for leaving her so I never went. 3 years later I moved 2hrs away with my ex boyfriend and we got pregnant, I was scared to tell my mum and when I did she called me a slut. 2 years later my ex, me and my son moved back to my hometown near to my mum we then get pregnant again with our daughter. 6 months later my ex left us and I relied a lot on my mum, I developed anxiety and depression so I was in a lot, occasionally I wanted to go out with friends but my mum said that as I am a mother I don’t get a break. We argued a lot and one time it got physical with her hitting me with my baby in my arms and kicking me when I was alone on the ground. 2 years later I moved house into a nicer area (my previous next door neighbours were drug dealers and there was shootings going on so we never went outside our house) I met the most amazing man in the world after many failed relationships that hurt me so badly; my mum and stepdad do not like him for the simple fact, I think, that he makes me happy. The children’s birthday party was at the beginning of Feb which they didn’t attend as my boyfriend was there, they don’t go to any of the children’s activities like judo as my boyfriend likes to be there to see the kids mothers day this year my boyfriend bought a card for the kids to write out for me and a gift (my ex never did this so I was quite emotional) my mum flipped, went into my boyfriends work started swearing at him while he was at work as she had also bought a card as that’s what she does every year, a couple of weeks later me and the children and my boyfriend go to his nieces party, my mum rang me 50+ times and I didn’t answer as my phone was in my bag while I was looking after the kids, was also pissed off as the previous day my stepdad phoned me just to swear at me and critique me. The phone calls were just to ask if the kids were ok, she then came around to my house just after I had got in with the kids; by now I had listened to the voicemails saying nasty things and threatening social services etc. so I didn’t want to speak to her, she then proceeeded to let herself in but the chain was on so she then got the attention of my neighbours who now dislike me for that incident. We have spoken since then her and my stepdad still see the kids but we are just civil, no personal conversations and the most I have gotten as an apology is her saying “well I apologise”… I just feel like after 28 years this has been brewing for some time. Am I wrong for wanting my mum to be happy for me for finally finding a partner that makes me happy and a better person? What should I do now? I feel better that we are distanced like this as whenever we had talked about anything personal she would use it against me for many years. TIA xx
[ad_2]

Source