Hey, Can I have a private post please. I don’t really know what to do anymore, I…

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Hey, Can I have a private post please. I don’t really know what to do anymore, I can feel myself distancing from my partner and just don’t know how to save it. I have a nearly 3year old boy and we have a 7week old together.y partner also has to daughters who live 2 hours away. He doesn’t drive so it has now come down to me driving to get them on a Friday and drop them
Home on a Sunday every other weekend so it’s costing me a lot in fuel. He use to get the train but since living together it was just too costly as he would spend a fortune on crap for them. I have to physically control money and rein him in. He will have two baths a day even when he’s done nothing, but will have to have the light in even when it’s daylight. It bugs me as I am very conscious of electricity and that: all my bills have over doubled since he moved in. He is brilliant with my little boy who seems his as his daddy as his own dad is a waste of space. Anyways hmmm partner doesn’t work (and his ex wife did say he never stayed in a job long.) either he couldn’t get on with the managers, or something he didn’t like. Or he would get really bad depression and start contemplating taking his life and whether he is happy with us etc. So it’s easier for him not to work as I can’t go from having his wage to then battling tax credits. This frustrates me anyways as I have always always worked full time even when I was a single mum. But also if he’s in work I can’t guarantee I will get his wages that I need for the bills as he can have a wobbly and gamble it all as soon as it hits his account. He is selfish and has to have money each month for PS4 or crap so I have to give him at least £40 a month and then on the food shop I have to allow enough for a bottle of branded fizzy a day and slot of crisps. I will go without the odd treat just so he can have his fizzy. He is at home all day every day and will have a day doing housework but then days of doing fuck all, and staying asleep until midday even when his kids are down! Yes he does the 2am night feed but if he can’t get back to sleep that isn’t my fault it’s all the fizzy and the staying up late playing games. I now can’t use credit cards for any emergency as have had to use It to bail him out or pay for a big family holiday he was going on for a wedding whilst we stayed at home, he went to New Zealand for a month. His kids will be down and he will try to go out to local attractions but I keep saying we can’t afford it and he thinks I’m
Just being tight or because I don’t like his kids. I do so much for them, and of course I love them they can be a complete nightmare and handful but we are getting through that. I just don’t know if I am being unfair considering telling him to go. As he can be a really good dad but I just don’t feel it’s enough. I am having to do a 50hour KIT week at work at the moment purely to pay for Christmas as he wants to therwise just stick it on a store account (which is in my name) like he does every month as soon as a new PS4 game come out only to sell it online for cheaper or another game and doesn’t give that money to try and pay it off the catalogue! Please any advice, do
I just get strict and if he decides to go then he goes? Just don’t know how I’ll work full time with both kids 😞 I was so much better off financial when I was single xx
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