Hey im just looking for some advice. Ive been married 5 years this august. I got…
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Hey im just looking for some advice. Ive been married 5 years this august. I got married at 21 i was a size 8/10 6months pregnant with his baby. Totally loved it but got married not really knowing each other at all. Anyway i suffered pnd an got very ill an i ballooned to a 16 we broke up for a year from march 15-dec 15. After giving it a go for our sons sake ( to make xmas nice) we fell preg with his baby. Now im now a 16-18 so unhappy with how i look i get called a fat backass by my husband and ‘look at you’, ‘ill love you agen when u get back to when i get ya’ has my son calling me ‘fat’ a hippo or whatever huge animal is on tv 😓 feel drained. Whenever my baby cries i get ‘you wanted her’ ‘shes your daughter’ yet when she is pleasant he loves her. Im so lost i work full time an can do it alone but he is a good dad but im in a loveless sexless marriage and im always put down by him. Ive been unhappy for a very long time but im scared ill leave find anyone as a divorcee with 2 kids. We dont talk, we argue when we do, we never take the kids out as a family, he says he didnt want this? A wife a family. Yet he is a good dad but not a very good husband.
He cleans the house an does the food shop an is a good dad when its not gettinf im the way of the gym or his time but he says he hates me an wouldnt fight for me. I dont know what to do?
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He should respect u and how u are and support u instead he is threiving on ur low self esteem and is kicking u while ur down.
Loosing weight is hard especially with a baby to care for all hours of the day. It’s hard work getting dressed some mornings never mind leaving the house or cooking a healthy meal etc.
Please don’t allow urself to be treated like this. I’m sure ur a fantastic mom and ur child comes first. So don’t beat urself up about how u appear. he sounds like he has no respect for u and taking u for granted and u don’t deserve that. His making u feel u have to accept how he talks to u so u feel no one else would want u. But that isn’t the case. Many other men would if u left him. Weight isn’t a issue for all men.
But if ur unhappy then loose weight for u. Not him. Slimming world ,take baby to groups with u. Xxx
Honestly as horrible and hard as it would be I think the best thing you can do is walk way, your husband should support you and make you feel good about yourself not put you down about the way you are. Nobody deserves to be treated like that and it’s so rude and disrespectful for him to tell your son to call you names! But the decision is yours to make but maybe read what you just wrote and think about what you would advise your daughter to do if this was her x
He’s a good dad but teaches your child’s it’s ok to say these things to his mother. Nope that’s not a good dad! And size 16 or not, you’re far better than this idiot! Get out of there, run as fast as you can and repair what damage he’s cause to your child before he turns himr into a bully! Xxxx
You don’t need to be with him if he treats you like that, he should love you however you look I was a size 10 when met my husband and now 16-18 and he still loves me. I know it’s hard as he’s good with the children but he is making you miserable x
Simple, leave. You’re worth more than that!