Hi could I have a private post please? Bit of a sensitive issue but looking for …
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Hi could I have a private post please? Bit of a sensitive issue but looking for some advice. My partners is one of the typical boyfriends who is convinced I’m cheating on him (I’m not) it’s got worse over the years and my life now consists of a tracker on my car and phone, having to bath/use the loo with the door open and him holding my phone to make sure no body climbs through the windows(😂) having to get my shopping delivered to the door, cctv above my front door monitoring when I leave/who comes in im at my wits end and I desperately want out. Only problem is he’s also one of those people that has threatened to kill himself if ever I leave, and it’s not for attention I know 10000% if I left he would do it. I don’t know who i can contact and explain the situation too? I’ve rang 101, suicide helpline, Samaritans, local hospital etc explaining the situation but none of them can help until he actually has hurt himself but obviously I’m not leaving until I know he’s safe? 2 years when I left he cut his wrists in a attempt and was in hospital for 3 weeks and had to have a blood transfusion so I know he’s for real about this. I have a baby who deserves so much more than this life but I don’t know how I can leave I’m desperate, I’m frantically typing this while he’s asleep because I’m so scared of what he’ll do himself is there anyone else who can help?? I feel he needs to be in full time care with therapy at the moment but there’s no where that will take him against his will. Sorry for the long post
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Hi could you reply on my post please? I know I need to leave and I’m ready too but I couldn’t live with myself if he died and it was my fault I couldn’t explain to my child that daddy died because of me I can’t leave till he’s in safe hands but no body will help until it’s too late, I’ve tried the council and they said they couldn’t help I don’t know where else I can turn
That’s not a typical bloke u daft woman in the nicest way possible are you on drugs you crazy cow …. He’s abusing you … He’s fucking phyco he’s phycologically abusing you and ruining your life .. let the crazy attention seeking nut job top himself before he destroys another woman’s life … Walk away
Please leave. Grab babys basics and any paperwork and run. Its not typical. Your prisoner in your home, in your life. If he tries to hurt himself thats his decision. Only then will they step in. So in odd way your helping him too. You dont owe him any loyalty. Hes not treating you with any respect. X
That is just extreme.. you can’t help what he does to himself, that sounds really bad, but he’s controlling you in literally every aspect of your life! I’d take your child and leave now to be honest
There is nothing typical about this. Please please contact someone who can help you. You’re responsibility is with your baby, and you. If you have a daughter and you stay in this relationship, she will grow up thinking this is normal behaviour and it’s okay to be treated in this way. If it’s a baby boy you have then he may well grow up thinking that it’s okay to control another person in this way. I’m sending you all my thoughts and well wishes, but please please get out.
Uh. Walk away sweetie. Nobody needs that. My ex threatened to kill himself if I left… all I had to say was “Don’t make a mess”
As someone once said to me you are not responsible for other people’s actions. I know it’s hard but you’re not. You are responsible for you and your baby. Do what’s right for you x
Woman’s aid or local council will help! This is controlling and very strange ( not normal) behaviour! I wish you all the best be Strong u have it in you xx
Thsts not typical and tbh I think you know that. He threatens suicide to control you. My advice walk….. no run from this man. I can say I highly doubt he would kill himself to be quite honest
Oh wow this is absolutely terrible , I hope you find the help you need it isn’t fair on you or baby, the baby’s missing out on so much, your partner must have some kind of underlying problem 😿 how come they won’t do nothing now even tho he’s harmed him self in the past? Surley that should be a sign of someone in need of help xx
Get out, you are responsible for you and your baby….he is a grown man that is terrorising you:
U can’t make him do anything he don’t wanna do. He obvs has mh issues stemming a lot deeper than u realise. If he wanted to commit suicide he would, no ifs no buts no reasoning… He’s just using it to control u. Get out as fast as u can x
Do what’s best for you & your baby, you can’t live like that forever, his family will have to help him
That is emotional blackmail hun. I would try and get to police or maybe just not care?
He needs help maybe suggest going to a doctor because sounds like severe anxiety Something deeper x
Leave now if you dont take the chance you may never get an other what hes doing is emotionally blackmailling u to stay with him he aint treating u how u deserve hun sounds to me ur like his possestion rather than his partner if u leave trust me it all be good for u an ur baby x
Hun I’ve been through this years ago please feel free to message me! You deserve better and will get better!! Cx
There is nothing ‘typical’ about him…..
Thats not normal, seriously u need to get out x
Omg that’s no way to live hunny. He’s a bully xx
This is abuse. The police and women’s aid can help you
Phone woman’s aid babe xx