Hi could I have a private post please just on the normal page I would like to st…
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Hi could I have a private post please just on the normal page I would like to stay anonymous, thanks! X
I’m thinking of leaving my partner. We have a 1 year old child and have recently moved into a bought house together. Everything is in his name and he paid the deposit and pays the mortgage and council tax i pay everything else but again all bills are in his name so I’m not tied to anything I just give him so much money every week/month and I do a food shop every week. Being tied to the house isn’t my issue, neither is affording rent of some kind myself. My problem is affording a deposit and having a place to live with my child in the mean time. I have bought everything in the house in regards to curtains, toaster, plates etc or halfed in for the likes of tv/couch/carpet. I just feel stuck/trapped in a way. I spent so long buying all of these things and I don’t want to take them away from my partner and leave him with nothing in a house, I also don’t want to ask him for money back for the things I’ve halfed in for as it would leave him struggling with the house and having to buy all this stuff! I also don’t want to leave myself with nothing which is what I would need to do to make sure he wasn’t left with an empty house if that makes sense? I’m thinking the only way I can do it is to basically stay in the relationship until I can save enough to leave and start over? I don’t have good credit and have maxed out my catalogue for this house, does anybody have any experience on using a credit union? From what I can gather you save with them for 3 months and then they are likely to give you 3 times what you have saved? I’m not sure on what you pay back etc though? After bills etc I’m left with around 200 for the month to buy in food shopping and be able to do things with my child, not that we really do much as I’m forever cleaning. Anyway the reason I’m looking to leave the relationship is we are both miserable, neither one of us is happy and as much as we try we aren’t getting any happier it’s only a matter of time before we split and we have only lasted so long because of baby. I just feel like I need to be prepared for the worst and able to support my child and myself without my partner, I’d also like an idea on how people split the week between parents? I work 3 days a week partner works 5 and we only have 1 day that we are both working that we need to sort childcare other than that it’s different days off. I don’t have any family to stay with that have room for me and my child so I basically need to go straight from this house to the next in the middle of a break up, I just don’t want anything to get nasty or for my child to lose out on precious time with either parent so far in his life he has had us both there every night bar the odd occasion. I’m just so lost with what to do and don’t know how to go about moving on from my partner and staying on good terms, how do people do this? I’m looking for answers from every angle please xx
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