Hi, private post please. I don’t know where else to turn because my family and f…
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Hi, private post please. I don’t know where else to turn because my family and friends have had enough of hearing this. I was with my partner for over 10 years, since we were 15. It was a bumpy road, bliss for a bit, then violence (which he did stop a few years ago) and for the last 5 years cheating. I let it all go because we now have 4 children and I wanted my family unit. I loved him. I think I still do. He’s now left me for someone else. Someone he’s met twice! How can you throw everything away for that? In these past 2 weeks since leaving he’s been messing with my head and coming and going. My head is about to pop. I can’t concentrate or eat and my children need me in a good state of mind. What I’m asking is has anyone got any positive stories for me from their own experience? I know I am a massive door mat and have lost all self respect and confidence but I did it all for the right reasons. It’s all just been a massive game for so long and before he left I felt like I wanted him too but now he has I feel lost and am grieving for my life as I knew it. I know what I’d say to my friends or my daughters if it were them but it’s easier to say it to someone else. I’d take him back even now and I don’t want to. I know I deserve better as do my children. Please help a very sad and heartbroken mummy here. X
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If you would like to inbox me I have been through a very similar situation, and it sounds like you’re feeling exactly the same way I did, what I can say is it honestly isn’t the be all and end all, it’s been 4 years since we broke up and I am happier now more than ever. I can see the truth behind everything that he did to me and now I would never let anybody disrespect me like that again. I value mine and my children’s happiness too much. I always felt that I needed him around to keep my children happy but what I eventually realised is that actually they were happier without him and I being together because I was happy and it made the home a happier place. Keep your chin up sweetheart. X
My Dad was seeing someone behind my mums back. She walked out and took me and my brother. For five years my dad never bothered to be in my life – my mum never stopped him, he knew where we were, the only thing she wanted was effort and proof he wanted to see us. When I was 12 he finally got a court order. My mum told me the truth from the beginning, but she told me everything when I was 16 after my dad had been manipulating me for four years to make me think that I was in the wrong, that he didn’t get time with me because I didn’t fight for it.
My mum is my best friend and she is so strong because she never looked back. He doesn’t care about you? You don’t care about him. You got this sister. Your kids will thank you one day.
Trust me if your friends are real friends they’ll listen to you time and time again without getting sick. You’re not daft and know you deserve better but until you choose to leave there’s nothing anyone can do except support you in any way possible. There will come a time where u will say enoughs enough and you’ll wonder why you put up with it for so long x
I split from my five children’s dad 11 weeks ago after I found out he was sexting strangers had joined all kinds of dating/sex sites. He has Aspergers but no excuse. 16 years together and he had been doing that since august last year . 11 weeks ago I honesty thought I wouldn’t survive cope nothing I felt destroyed . NOW I’m happier calmer and starting to realise I clung on to what in reality was a shit relationship for years. I’ve sourced some counselling and I’m on the up xxx
I had this was together for 6 years from the age of 15 had a 6 month old baby and I was 2 months pregnant myself had him cheat countless times and after he left I found out he was doing it while pregnant with my first till he walked out so just over a year and I didn’t think nothing of it cause he was akwYs out drinking and doing what he wanted it was me trying for a few months to get back together cause I didn’t wanna loose him and all that lost a stone and half in weight went on to have my daughter and met someone else was with them a year and half before kids Dad tried and and me being stupid then went back there and had 2 more kids but all good no cheating and all that back to how it was before we had kids, I would concentrate on getting yourself back to happy you and ignore him unless it’s about seeing kids as I wished I had done as it effected a lot and cAused too much stress and upset wingy kiddies 🙂 my inbox is always open