Hi, so sorry to ask for another post but really have no one else to turn to!
Hubby and I are currently not talking over something i think is silly but He’s adamant I’m in the wrong. Basically we have a 16 month old who goes to nursery full time as we both work full time, me Mon-fri, he works shifts including nights. When He’s on days or nights or off he picks our little girl up as he gets there earlier than me and gives them some time together. I either come straight home or a couple of times a week go swimming for 20 mins to have some me time. I generally drop her off so like to pick her up on occasion so I’m not just seen as the bad one who drops her there (silly I know lol)
Anyway Monday hubby worked nights, he was meant to pick her up at about 4pm but overslept, I hasn’t heard from him by about 5pm, couldn’t get hold of him so decided to skip swimming (was exhausted anyway!) And pick her up. When I was 10 minutes from the nursery hubby rang and said he had just woken up, he would get her. I explained where I was and said it made more sense for me to go, so i did. He’s now not spoken to me properly since then and when i asked him what’s wrong he said he’s disappointed in me, that I stole time that he has with her and that I’m trying to control everything. I know he gets upset that our little girl is a mummy’s girl but the nature of his shifts means He’s not here quite a few nights and often has to work weekends and when he is here he spends 90% of his time on his phone.
We’re also arguing about housework, i generally do everything, regardless of what at shift he is on. I asked him to do something the other day when he was on nights and all i got was I’m too tired, this was after He’d gone to bed at 6am when he got in and slept til 3pm!
Any advice is welcome! X