I need some advice please. Me and my husband are separated we have 2 children wh…
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I need some advice please. Me and my husband are separated we have 2 children who live with me. However since the split I’ve now moved 30 miles away from their dad. He has them every other weekend and sees them every Wednesday for tea for maximum of an hour! He is demanding I take them at least half way to him and threatened me with court as he said a judge would say that’s fair! Can he do this do I have to take them or is it his responsibility?? hope that makes sense. Thanks
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You did move away from him ….at the very least meet half way or give the equivalent in gas fare round trip….He didn’t have a choice in your move and he does want a relationship with his children and it shouldn’t be an uphill battle for him because of your decision to move so far away
I wouldn’t be giving him money to feed the kids that’s a no no, he left you and the kids so he should provide food for them, I’d take them and let him bring them back, tell him you aren’t giving him money any more what a div he is expecting it xx
My ex lives 25 miles from me. I run around all week so he picks up and drops off at the weekend. And I definitely wouldn’t meet halfway for an hours visit on the wednesda x
He left you, you moved away for what ever reason and yet so many on here think you ought to put yourself out for him!?? He left the family so I really don’t see the problem with you making a life again somewhere else with what’s left of your family??! Were you meant to wait around and see what other life changes he has in mind for himself…….! x
Your both equally responsible so should get an arrangement in place you take and he drops back or vice versa. Its what my sister and her ex do and the court would say you both have PR so both are accountable for pick ups n drop offs regardless of who moved where etc. As for giving him money I’d stop that
I wouldn’t pay him anything. It’s not like its a hundred miles each way or anything…it’s 30….you drive more than that going for groceries on a Saturday! If you are on good terms and have nothing else you need to do, meet him half way. If you are busy, tell him he will have to come get them. God Forbid a man make an effort or go out of his way to spend time with his kids! As far as can he do it legally? I would ask my lawyer. If you don’t have a lawyer, I’d be checking into a public assisted lawyer for advice!
I think its 50/50 to meet halfway only because it’s beneficial to the kids….I wouldn’t be giving him money for food tho and an hour on a Wednesday is probably not long enough if traveling is involved….but that’s my opinion x x hope it’s all sorted soon 😊
Courts would tell him if he is having his kids it’s his responsibility to pick them up hand drop them off.ive had all this before.but you could suggest he picks them up.and then you collect them to bring them home.x
If it goes to court the judge will say that dad picks them up to go to his and u pick them up to go back home as thats what they did with my little brother his dad picks him up on a friday and my mom picks him up from his dads on a sunday every 2 weeks thats what the judge said works best xx
He left me. And I moved with kids out of his town. I have been meeting him most times and giving him money to Feed them even though he has full time job. Today he refused to bring them home.
as far as im aware u moved the family away therefore it’s only fair u meet half way. thats how the judge will see it. can see ex;s point 1 hour max on wed by time he collects n gets bk to his house it’s time to return them
I live almost 50 miles away from my ex and he doesn’t drive, so every other weekend we take them down on the Saturday morning, and pick them up Sunday afternoon.
Unfortunately as it was you who moved them away he is probably right as the judge will take that into account as a main factor
After I split up with my ex, he moved away, then moved back, then I moved away, then he moved further away. As I had full custody, my ex comes here to pick up and drop off
Yep court will say half and half. Court told us to meet half way, we decided ourselves it was easier to do one way each, I drop her her down and he drops her home.
I dont see a big deal in meeting him halfway as you said you are the one who moved 30 miles away…at least hes still in the kids lives and wants to be with them… quit trying to be so combative and just meet the man in the middle
I moved 100 miles away from my kids dad he picks them up and drops them off. I certainly wouldn’t be giving him money to feed them ect either.
He is talking out of his backside if he wants to see his children then he has to put the effort in and pick them up himself. If he asked nicely without the threat of court and gave you a good reason for the request then you might think of assisting if you could but giving you a threat of court is not the way to go. No court would make that decision as I said before he is talking a load of rubbish just trying to scare you he is a controlling bully. 😊
Considering you moved 30 miles away off your own back and it’s only for tea on the wednesday, I’d say you taking them half way is very reasonable. You didn’t have to up and leave. Wasn’t his choice. And it’s not easy to travel 40 mins ish there and back just to see kids for an hour especially when it’s not your fault you have to travel that far. I agree with him, judge will probably grant it in his favour there x
I’m not sure about the legalities but if you are the one that decided to move your family then I think it’s fair you meet him half way.
I would make the effort and meet him half way….it was you who moved xx
One could collect and the other drop off? You shouldn’t have to give him money to feed his own children xx
Halfway is fair enough. I have to travel 60 miles each way to meet my kids dad halfway. 30 miles ain’t far xx
30 miles isn’t far and I don’t see why you can’t meet him half way if you both drive
You run around after the kids all week. He can do it 6 times a month!!!