Mummy Is My Face Scary, Can I Get A New Face?

 

“Mummy why do people stare? Mummy is my face scary can I get a new face?”

This is what my 4-year-old Alexi asked me today whilst walking back from nursery and having several people making comments about her, none overly nasty but things like “aww poor little thing”, or “did you see her hand as well”, my beautiful daughter shouldn’t have to feel ugly or have grown adults staring and whispering about her.

Alexi has Nevus (spelt Nevus or Naevus)

It is a skin growth present at birth, basically a birthmark.

It is a rare disorder that affects around 1 in  20,000  newborns  in  some  form and  as  few as 1 in 500,000 in its most severe form.

It is composed of a special  pigment producing cells called melanocytes, which  are  the pigment producing cells normally found in skin.

They can exist on any part  of  the  body,  and grow  in  proportion  to body  growth.

Alexi has nevus on one hand a small mark below her eye and one on her cheek and spots on her lower back she feels no pain from it, just her self-esteem and confidence is knocked, I understand children talking about it and asking questions (out of the mouth of babes and all that) but adults should know better.

On one occasion a middle-aged lady approached us and rudely said “surely you shouldn’t take her out in public like this anyone could catch it”.

Please if you see a child or adult with nevus don’t stare, smile it may make that person feel better that day, ask questions we love people being curious as long as they are kind.

Alexi is beautiful inside and out she is a happy loved child who is finding ways to deal with the stares and whispers and shy we have found that adults notice it and comment far quicker than children.

one of her little friends even coloured in her hand to be like Alexi, Children don’t see it as ugly, scary or weird most think she looks cool, adults please don’t shy away, please don’t whisper, just look passed the nevus and see my beautiful little girl whom has the most precious smile.

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