Ppp Me and my OH are planning our second child’s christening all is going beau…
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Me and my OH are planning our second child’s christening all is going beautifully until the mention of his ” best friend” some one who he sees maybe twice a year despite only living ten mins away! And he’s yet to see him this year! I remind him that said friend is no longer welcome at our family events as he has caused drama at EVERY event we have had … Our engagement party started a fight with my family member for looking at him the wrong way…. First born christening with another friend over football … Our wedding he stood on my dress several times, let him self into the private room and took alcohol and then put his hands around my brothers throat as he thought he was some one else !!! Other half ant understand why I’ve banned him even though after wedding I told this ” friend ” he’s no longer welcome at our events and he understood . I have no issue of OH seeing him away from us but not at family things as he can’t be trusted …. Am I’m being unfair ? OH is saying he can’t invite any of his other friends if he can’t have this one
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Thank you ladies I didn’t think I was over reacting , at my wedding there was no children in the evening so no children were witness to such awful behaviour, but your totally right. His other lovely friends are welcome but this one isn’t ! Don’t see why the only time he sees this person is at family events he seems to ruin !
Then he won’t have his friends at his child’s christening will he! It’s about your child not about who he invites, no you haven’t over reacted, it’s about having the day perfect for your child, not having to stand on egg shells the whole day waiting for his mate to kick off!
He wouldnt be allowed around my child, he may not have done anything to the children imagine how scared they would be seeing him put his hands around someone! Im not only seeing this as a trust issue but safety issue aswell if your oh cannot understand that its hos problem he needs to respect your feelings and children’s saftey if he feels he cannot invite any friends because of it then so be it. Only people needed are the people important in your childs life.
The christening is for your child, if you can’t trust him to behave for YOUR child for ONE day then don’t invite him but if your partner is really insistent then maybe invite him to the celebrations after and not to the Church and give him an ultimatum, one toe out of line and he’s gone! x
I would actually send his friends invites myself and explain the situation and tell them they are still welcome but would understand if they decline in support for this friend your husband may find there’s not only you who doesn’t approve of his behaviour
I’d him he isn’t inviting anyone then lol! He wants to try and be a bit manipulative by saying if he can’t invite this friend, he invites no one? No one it is!!! You’re right! Normally I’m in the fence with these posts, but in the circumstance, that friend wouldn’t be welcome at any event I’m at!!
Let him be that pathetic then. Don’t worry bout it. If that’s how he wants it then don’t argue with it
Sounds like a fruit cake .hun .but did make me chuckle .standing on the dress. There’s always one idiot and he sounds like the 1.