So my ex wants to meet his son (almost 1) but only on condition that Nobody he’s…

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So my ex wants to meet his son (almost 1) but only on condition that Nobody he’s familiar with can be present and said no to contact centre! Help. He’s never laid eyes on him. Basically just send him off in car. Knows nothing about him at all
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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Could you please reply to Che White. My ex has never met him so he’s with me. He doesn’t even want me there at all

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    I’m sorry but I’m all for both parents having contact etc but not for all the money on earth would I agree to that. Contact centre first for the child’s sake . You wouldn’t hand your child over to a stranger which , until a relationship is formed , he is

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Any decent father that actually cares for his child would want to put their child’s safety health n needs before their own… A father that tries to dictate terms etc clearly isn’t thinking of what’s best for the child. Unfortunately I know this feeling all to well.. stick to your gut, if it doesn’t feel right then it’s probably not… end of the day you have to think of what’s best for your son. If he wants contact tell him to go through the appropriate channels, your his main carer you know what’s right for you son. X

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Hell no, my ex has never seen his son who is 1 and if he decided he wanted to it would either be with me there or at a contact centre. I wouldn’t let him out of my sight with him x

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    my child’s biological dad has seen him once at mine when he was 3 months old and once in a car park then never bothered his arse till he was about 2 then text saying he wanted to pick him up and have contact without me their and to have him all wkend at his over night, I said absolutely not, not until a bond is made and I can trust him and cause it wasn’t on his terms he told me to tell my son is real dad is dead and he wants nothing to do with him,my son is now 5. deadbeat arsehole, your the mother don’t let him dictate to you, if he wants to be a dad he will do what it takesπŸ‘Œ

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Definitely not, or if you do then I would make sure you are there, he is going to be a complete stranger to your son so 1. Your son will not feel okay with that and 2. There is a reason he doesn’t want you there, I would do a contact centre or you be with him and your son when he meets him, and let them get a bond until you feel is there I wouldn’t let him take your son alone x

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Not a chance I’d agree to those terms! Your child would likely be so unsettled with a stranger. He may genetically be his father but that won’t mean anything to your child at this point.

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    I would absolutely say no! For one thing I’ve read too many posts about dad’s who pull this sort of stunt and then refuse to give the child back! And he’s basically a stranger! He sounds very selfish and childish and clearly doesn’t have a clue about children or what is best for his son because any decent parent would understand that the child be scared of being put into a car and sent off with somebody they’ve never met! They need to get to know each other gradually first with you there for reassurance for your son! X

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    He needs to establish a relationship with him before having him properly. Perhaps suggest a park trip, soft play? So you can sit on the side lines and be there if it goes wrong. From experience the courts (if it ended up there) will want to see that you have been reasonable and suggested different arrangements.

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Absolutely no!!!… That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard and I believe it would be irresponsible of you to agree to this!

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Lmao not a chance! Gotta love “men” like this! Doesn’t give a crap about their kids for god knows how long then DEMANDS it all their own way πŸ˜‚πŸ–• Jog on mate! X

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    No way ! You wouldn’t send them off with a total stranger ( which this man technically is to the child). Contact centre before you can trust him to spend time with him and make sure there is a residence order in place if hes on birth certificate as he doesn’t have to bring him back !!!

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    No I’d disagree he has to let you be there or a contact centre at least until you are comfortable he hasn’t to understand a year is a long time not to be in a child’s life

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Ermm no definitely not I’d be concerned as to why he won’t meet him with you there

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Hell. F*cking. No.
    You do not get to swan into a child’s life when it suits you and demand it all your way.
    Tell him contact centre at a time and date of your choosing, supervised contact ONLY or no ball.
    Let him take you to court if he’s serious.

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Please don’t let him see your son alone. Your son doesn’t know him from adam even if he is his dad a meeting has to be done properly with you present else not at all x

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Urm… no! Simple as that. The child doesnt know him. Its at a contact center if he doesnt want to see you or not at all. What a joke. As if you would just be like yeah ok… ill just pop my 1 year old in the car and send him to you despite the fact he doesnt know you at all… 😐😐😐

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  • 5th May 2017 at 4:23 am
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    Couldn’t you both go to the park together he needs to get to know him before he just takes him

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