Sorry to message again. Please could I have a private post as need to make a big…

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Sorry to message again. Please could I have a private post as need to make a big decision and have no idea what to do. None of my friends and family have been in a situation like it before so whilst they have their opinions they cant help much. So end of 2015 just before our daughter turned 1, my husband cheated on me and when I found out I asked him to leave so he started seeing the other woman officially. For 3 and a half months he did not visit his daughter despite me practically begging him to be part of her life. He never even messaged to ask how she was and his reasons were that his new woman was not happy for him to have contact with me. So he chose to put his gf of a few weeks before his daughter. We eventually gave our marriage another go (stupid of me I know) and it didnt work. He left end of May and again 10 days after leaving he had not visited our daughter or asked to see her. I had to convince him to visit and he did a few times. Then one Weds was his evening to see her, he turned up at 6pm, asked to use my shower, then announced he had plans, kissed her goodbye at 6.20 and left (his plans were a date!). The following Fri he was meant to see her in the evening and spoke to her on the Thurs night and said daddy would take her to the park tomorrow. She was so excited. Fri morning we argued so he said he wouldnt come. I text him later in the day saying put our problems aside and think of her. He said no he had made plans with his mates. I text saying she was checking the window from him and he replied saying he would come another time. I then said I wanted an agreement of dates and times as the casual arrangement wasnt working. We agreed the 25th June, 28th June and 1st July. He confirmed it via text. He face timed our daughter and again promised the park on the Sunday. Fri 23rd evening I got a message saying he wanted a weekend to himself and would not see her Sunday. I told him you cant just decide to have a weekend off from being a dad and if he let her down again it was his last chance and he would have to go to court to see her. He still said no and didnt show up. I left it a few days and messaged him to ask why on earth he is doing this and that our little girl needs her daddy. He said it was because he blames her for our marriage going wrong and wasnt ready to be a dad. Then told me it was also becauase he couldnt face seeing me. I told him to sort his head out and decide if he wants to be in her life or not and let me know when he is ready to talk. In the mean time he has told everyone I have refused him access! He also then randomly messaged me saying he would go to court to see her. I pointed out he cant take it to court when I am actually trying to get him to see her and he keeps not turning up. A lot of mind games going on. Now he is asking to see her this weekend and I have no idea what to do. I never wanted to say no but I have sat and watched my little girl get hurt and let down so many times do I risk that happening again? She wont leave my side terrified im going to leave too. But if I stop her seeing her dad now will she grow up to hate more for it. Or do I let him have another chance and risk her getting hurt again. Im so comfused. He wont even accept he has done anything wrong to her. Thanks and sorry for the really long message
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