I was a happily married stay at home mum raising my three precious children Oliver 8, Joshua 6 and Poppy 3.
I loved being able to take my eldest two to school and spending time with my little girl, then every day being in the playground to collect my boys.
I never missed an assembly or sports day, my children could have friends over and I would always have a healthy home cooked meal on the table for when my husband came home.
I always wanted to be a mum and a housewife, I was very happy.
However my husband can’t have been happy as he ended up cheating on me and left me for his mistress.
I was stuck, I had always been financially supported by my husband but now I had to claim benefits.
But why should I get a job, I didn’t ask for my husband to cheat, I didn’t get pregnant to claim benefits, I have done no wrong!
The job centre says as my youngest child is 3 I have to look for work, but why?
How is this fair on my children to have to go without their mum being there for them when ever they need me, to have to miss sports day or get a paid stranger to collect my children from school.
I do not want a job, I already have one it’s called being a mum.
How can they expect me to leave my three children with a childminder just because my husband couldn’t keep his promise to love me forever.
I didn’t do anything wrong yet I am the one who is being made to feel guilty for not wanting a job, but if I do not prove I’m looking for work they will stop our benefits.
I understand many may not agree with me but I do not care, I set out to be a mum all the time not to miss out on watching them grow.
