Could I have a private post please.
I have a 3yr old son, my ex partner has three girls to his exwife. these children stay with him at least once a week and he pays maintenance for them. It was agreed that he would pay above what the CSA stated as it was a private agreement between them. We had a huge argument yesterday due to the fact that he has just spent £250 on new school shoes, bags, school uniform for them as his exwife asked him last week to make sure that he got them things for going back to school. I have no problem with the fact that he should contribute towards this but he has bought everything. When I asked him why, he said that if he doesn’t then she may stop him from seeing them. Although she has never actually done this. My son has never had anything bought for him from his dad as he always says he can’t afford it. I recently contact child maintenance and asked if they could work out maintenance for four children now and send the relevant figures to my ex-partner. I thought then he may be able to alter his first Maintenance arrangement with his exwife. This has been done and he is still refusing to pay anything to my son as he says he can’t afford it with the maintenance agreement that he already has for his first three children and doesn’t want to change it. I just don’t know what to do anymore. His exwife doesn’t acknowledge my son at all and says that his children with her should be a priority as they were married. My son only sees his dad if I take him there as no effort is made at all by his dad.
I just don’t know what to do. All I want is for them all to be treated equal yet he says I’m being unreasonable. Just wandered if anyone had been in a similar situation or could offer any advice. Thanks