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Ok so looking for some advise on a situation I am dealing with. I grew up in foster care so I did not really have any family growing up. So making sure my daughter doesn’t grow up feeling the same way I did is a big deal to me. Well I have my foster parents who are wonderful n my daughter calls grandma/grandpa. My daughter is 1.5 n I am due w. My second girl at the end of July. Now my daughters “grand parents” on her dads side have never met my eldest. Her “grand father” recently passed away due to being a severe alcoholic. No one on my daughters side of the family has even met her.
A little back ground on our history: my kids dad has another child from a previous relationship who he has no relationship w. N who he doesn’t pay a single penny for. He was in prison pretty much her entire life n was physically n emotionally abusive to his daughters mom. My kids dads mom is very much involved in his other child’s life as well as his entire family. Well fast forward to now he is in jail for another few month n is legally not allowed around me or our kids due to the same exact reasons. His mom knows that we have two kids but he doesn’t have a good relationship w. His mom at all b he has pretty much ruined any chance at a relationship that I could have had w. His family before it even had the chance to start due to him filling their head w. Lies about me. His mom had cut him off because he is a full blown addict n all around danger n manipulative person to be around.
So my question is: I have been going back n fourth about whether or not I should try n reach out to his mom myself n let her know what is going on as far as her son not being involved in our lives n wanting to give her the chance to form a relationship w. Her other grandchildren. But part of me is afraid she will just reject my girls n then another part of me thinks that it isn’t even my place to say anything or reach out to her. I just feel like for my daughters sake I should at least try. Right? She is a amazing, sweet, smart n lovable little girl n she deserves to have a family.
Also to add I was with my girls father for 5 years.
& I have never met any of his family.
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