Hi can I have a PP please? My friend needs help. She has two kids and a mortgag…

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Hi can I have a PP please?

My friend needs help. She has two kids and a mortgage with her fiancé who she’s been with for the past six years and recently she messaged me about them splitting up. No one had cheated or anything but the gist of it was that he wasn’t the person she wanted him to be and he wasn’t attracted to her as much anymore because she’s always in mum mode. I offered to have the kids once a week so they could start working on their relationship together, and really try making it work before they made any decisions but he decided he’d rather try a trial separation instead. He thought that time away from her and the kids would make him appreciate them more and that it was all he needed for him to wake up and realise what a good thing he had. He realises he’s been having something of a midlife crisis since he started pushing 30 and has been wondering for a while now if this is the life he really wants.

The night after they agreed to this trial separation (sex with others not allowed), he went on a night out with a few work mates and admitted to having a fumble with another lass at his friend’s apartment. He claims he wasn’t attracted to her, couldn’t get it up properly, and no one orgasmed so they gave it up as a bad job. She’s left him anyways as cheating has always been the absolute one thing she wouldn’t tolerate from a partner and now that he’s lost her, he’s freaking out. He’s decided this is the life he wants, and is begging her to take him back. He’s promised he’d change and claims the night this happened he was slipped some edible weed (without consent – he’s never taken drugs before) and has a text off his mate to prove it. He says he’s willing to do a urine sample (though I’m not sure it’ll be in his system anymore) but is reluctant to involve the police because they’re his still his ‘mates’ and doesn’t think they meant any real harm. Anyway my friend is not sure if the weed does change things for her because she says it’s legal in some places, and isn’t exactly the same as a date rape drug. She’s never touched the stuff herself before (none of us have) and isn’t quite sure how it affects your judgement so she’s looking for advice off anyone who has taken edible weed with alcohol before to figure out her decision. She wants to be able to understand how aware he’ll have been of what he was doing, and if he was properly consenting to the sex or maybe taken advantage of instead.
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