Can I have a post please? Bit of a long one sorry.. So a bit of back story, my b…

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Can I have a post please? Bit of a long one sorry..
So a bit of back story, my baby’s dad and me broke up a few days before I found out I was pregnant, he had nothing to do with my pregnancy, wasn’t at the birth (I didn’t want him there) and just never made any effort. He saw our son around 5 times in a year, and all but one of those times I had to go all the way to him which is over 100 miles away. When our son was about 15 months he took interest, though insisted on a Dna test which I did,and I had to pay for!
Over a few months we got close again and decided to try and see if things between us could work (I’m an idiot I know, but I was desperate for a “proper family”) after a few months I found out I was pregnant again (again, I know we should of took more precautions). I want this baby 100% though and don’t regret it one bit. We broke up again, he said he couldnt cope, he refused to help with money, literally he’d buy a pack of nappies and ask me for the money back, even though he works too.
He didn’t send our son a card or anything for his birthday, he’s 2 now. But he messages me occasionally asking how he is.
He’s seen him once in 2 months. I won’t let him have him on his own, because he got really cross and smacked him once, and he forgot to give him lunch on more than one occasion when I wasn’t there.
Basically now I really don’t know what to do. Do I cut contact? Do I just let him carry on doing things as and when he pleases? I just don’t think it’s fair on our son, and it won’t be on the other baby. Our son is getting to an age now where he’s going to understand more and more and I don’t want him to have constant let down because of his dad. He doesn’t actually recognise his dad. I’m so stuck. I manage fine on my own, he doesn’t help financially either. Just want some opinions really..
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