Can I have a pp. I have been with my husband for 4 years now. He is the love of…
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Can I have a pp.
I have been with my husband for 4 years now. He is the love of my life, we have two gorgeous baby girls and he is brilliant with them. However he is addicted to cannabis and cocaine. Spending £450 a week on them. As a result of this I never get to spend a penny on myself because I am always worried about whether we will have enough money for the month. I would like to buy a house etc in the next couple of years and I earn enough for us to not worry if he did not have this god awful habit.
I work, do the shopping, washing. He looks after the children. When I get home I am tired and he criticises me for being tired – He now tells me I sit on my arse all day and then when I am at work I do nothing – It’s not hard work, so I shouldn’t be tired. I get up at half 5/ 6am with the kids and look after them all day (til I go to work at around 3pm) while he sleeps off his drug hangover) To which I do not know what kind of mood to expect. I make him breakfast every day – Dependent on his mood he will either eat it or throw the plate in a rage. He has now taken to pushing me around and has hit me a few times. He squirted a whole bottle of tomato ketchup on me the other day. He Shouts and does all this infront of our 20 month old who I am sure understands. I come from a really decent family and never imagined that I would end up in a situation like this. He tells me that I am cheating on him, which I am not and would never dream of. He says if he finds out who it is he will kill them! (good job there isn’t anyone then!huh? )
I can see it from his point of view. He isn’t I love him. He keeps telling me that I am argumentative and its partly my fault that we are not getting on but I feel like he has ground me down. This has been going on two years. I have become intolerant of his mood swings and his need for drugs, because we could have so much more and I am afraid that we are going to end up with nothing – I want to be able to support my girls and pay for them to go to school like my parents did, but at the moment that will not be possible. I don’t want them growing up in a broken home, but I don’t think that the environment that they are in at the moment is a good one.
I don’t have anyone to talk to about it.
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Oh, sweetie, that’s a tough situation! Though I can only imagine how hard it is for you, I think you already know what the right decision is for you and your children.
It seems your husband is unwilling to admit he has a problem and seek help and the addiction is taking over whatever is left of his sanity. You need to get away from a situation that is so toxic before it causes irreparable damage to your kids. They’ll see the way he treats you and it will affect them.
By staying you run the risk that he’ll take his rage out on the children in one of his drug-addled stupors. This isn’t gonna get better until he gets help and as long as he refuses, he’s a very real danger to the rest of you.
Best of luck.
The children could be taken from you because its classed as abuse you leaving ur children with a man that you 100% know is under the influence of drugs. If u leave they will be supportive to you.. but not when your putting your children in this awful position. I know its harsh but it is true!
Sorry but you need to sort it out love of your life great with the kids he’s a druggy you’ll never have anything you need to think of your kids
Can I ask. Would you be happy if your children dated someone who did the above? If the answers no. Then leave. You’re showing your daughters that this is ok for someone else to treat them. I would not be buying a house with the man, and I certainly wouldn’t be raising my kids in it. I’ve been where you are, worse than what you’ve mentioned and the best thing I ever did was leave his sorry arse! It was hard. I won’t lie I was harassed and abused for a long time after leaving. He accused me of sexual assault to my children to SS and much more. But it’s passed and I’m much more happier and so are my children. And actually less tired x
He’s a Druggie? Your letting a druggie be around your children and allowing them to witness his behaviour? He’s a danger to your children for 1 why are you still with him!
financially you will be able to support you and your children, if he wont get help things will only get worse. for your kids sake get out
Im gobsmacked that the op even has to ask jesus h christ who in their right mind no matter how much your in love would you even contemplate leaving a 20 month old in his care !!!! Sorry im sure u dont need critiscised but get urself n ur kids out asap im.sure ud rather they be alive and from a broken home than end up dead, or orphans, harsh but entirely possible. Im sorry but i really want to take u by the ahoulders and shake some bloody sense into you