Can I have a pp please? Ok I’ll try and keep this short and sweet but I’m des…
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Can I have a pp please? 😊
Ok I’ll try and keep this short and sweet but I’m desperate to see what some of you ladies would do in my situation 🤔
ok so me and my partner have been together for 8 years and have 2 beautiful kids. He’s an amazing dad, we have a brilliant relationship, kids want for nothing. However, 5 years ago when I was pregnant with my first, I found lots of messages on his facebook to lots of different girls (exs aswel). Some messages were just asking how they were, what they were up to, others he had called a few beautiful/sexy. But He had tried to delete them tho which made it all a bit more suspicious. Anyway I confronted him, went ape shit, split up with him! but he begged me back, promised he had changed, deleted facebook and said that he wouldn’t do it again. That was 5 years ago and everything has been fine since, after lots of hard work I finally began to trust him again. Then last week I borrowed his old phone and nosey me went back through his old emails. The emails were From 4 years ago (just after I had my first) but I found messages on there from dating websites. proper crude messages tho, asking for naked photos and for sex. Made me feel sick. Obviously I’ve gone ape shit again and chucked him out. Because he done it after he promised he would never do anything like it again. He’s swore to me he’s changed since then Tho and I know he hasn’t done anything wrong in the past 4 years but I just can’t get over those vile messages 😷 and the fact he did it after he promised he wouldn’t 😩
Do I forgive and forget again because we do have such a lovely life together? or do i finish it and put my kids through that heartbreak 😩 me and the kids love him to bits so it would kill all of us. But how do forgive those sort of messages?
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Can’t imagine what you are going through right now, on the one hand he did it after being caught the first time and saying he wouldn’t do it again but on the other hand over the past 4 years he hasnt done it at all. If it was me, I would forgive him especially if you love him the way it sounds like you do, if he had met these women ect it would be a different story but I would be inclined to forgive this, start again and move forward. To do that though you need to be certain that you can forgive and move on, if you are going to thinking about it constantly then your never going to be able to be happy xx
Ive been through something pretty identical i chose to forgive ( i wont ever forget) i trust him 100% now we went through councelling and also have 2 children. We are now doing amazing and getting married next month. Only you know if you can still trust him after lying previously. I wish you all the best either way. Inbox me if u need to chat xx
How awful!! The thing is though how do you know he hasn’t done it in the last 4 years? He’s obviously not going to tell you if he has and if he can go back on his word once I know I couldn’t trust him 😞 xx