Can I have a ppp. Its extremelt long! But i really need some advice from people …

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Can I have a ppp. Its extremelt long! But i really need some advice from people on the outside of my situation. I have a 2 year old little girl who currently has contact with her dad every Saturday (he works during the week and she attends nursery so Saturdays worked out best for us) when we were together there was one or 2 occasions of dv but I don’t think he would ever physically hurt our child. My problem is that since day 1 there have been issues with his parenting, or so I think anyway. He just never seems to put her first and since being in a relationship, I genuinely feel that my daughter is being pushed to the side. We’ve used contact centres, had mediation meetings but I don’t feel they’ve helped. Before he got with his girlfriend he was sofa surfing and in and out of a job which meant his payments towards raising our daughter were never consistent. They never ever have been. He’s self employed and although has experience in all sorts of things, he will only look for or accept jobs in a certain trade, even if this means he misses payments. Since being in a relationship he has been late on numerous times to pick up our daughter and I don’t mean 5/10 minutes, one day my little girl was sat on the bottom step by the front door asking where daddy was because he was an hour late. He blames bus times and the fact that he’s now moved further away from where we live. That was his choice though right?? He moved in with his girlfriend after only a couple of weeks of being together and instantly thought that it meant he could start taking our daughter round to her house and mentioned how he wanted to keep her overnight. (He has only ever had her overnight once and that was at his sisters house due to him not having anywhere to live). I don’t get on with his girlfriend, she has previously posted things about me and my daughter on social media, has abused me verbally and is ALWAYS trying to get her two pence and opinion in on how things should go when it comes to my daughters and her dad’s situation. Her dad has let her down on several occasions to go out for meals with his girlfriend or because he knows I won’t allow my child around his girlfriends children yet. The latest being that he told me he was only having my little girl for 3 hours instead of 6 as he usually does because he had to go and meet his girlfriend in town and knew I wouldn’t allow my child to join them. I don’t know what to do, I’ve threatened him with court before but only because I WANTED him to be more involved and felt with the law and a judge setting him structure and routine then he would have no choice but to stick to it. He didn’t care and wanted to go ahead with it. Now I’m seriously debating stopping contact and telling him he needs to be the one to set up a court date. I just feel my little girl deserves better, she’s already at the point where she tells me she doesn’t want to see daddy and wants to stay at home with me 🙁 what do I do?
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