Can I have a private post please? I really need some advice on what to do and I…
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Can I have a private post please?
I really need some advice on what to do and I know this is going to be a long post but please bare with me.
My baby is 5 and a half months old and has CMPA, reflux and colic. He’s been teething since 9 weeks old, had flu at 3 weeks and has a cold at the moment. He has been such an unhappy baby from the start and I am seriously struggling to hold everything together. I live with my partner, but he works so many hours that I barely see him. I’m practically raising our baby by myself. I always wanted a child when I was younger and was told I’d never have them, so when I fell pregnant I thought it was a miracle. But I’ve spent everyday since my baby was born, feeling lonely, exhausted and depressed. My baby spends almost all day every day, winging and crying. We barely go out because of his crying.. I’m too embarrassed to go to any mum and baby groups because I know he will just cry the whole time. He still doesn’t sleep for very long at night and sometimes wakes up continuously throughout the night. During the day, he will be tired, but he resists his naps. Everything is a struggle with him. Feeding him is a constant struggle, he never wants to drink his milk. It’s a constant fight to get enough milk into him. Getting him dressed is a struggle because he kicks and screams. He likes baths… but once he’s out, it’s a fight to get him dried and dressed. It’s a struggle to get him to sleep.. I feel like I’m fighting all day every day. Everything is a struggle with my baby and I feel so down about it. I can’t sleep anymore, I can’t eat, I can’t bathe. I can’t even pee without him crying, screaming or moaning. I love him more than anything else in the world, but I’m not enjoying being his mum. I just don’t feel like me anymore. I knew once I had him that things would be tough but I didn’t expect to feel this low. The more I talk about how depressed I feel, the more I feel like a bad mother. He’s my everything, but I’m struggling to hold it together. I’m not speaking to the doctor about this because I have a history of depression and self harmed when I was very very young. I know I would be judged and I don’t want anyone taking my baby from me. Everyone keeps saying it’ll get better, but nearly 6 months later and I’m yet to see that. Please.. Someone tell me that they understand how I feel? Does it actually get better? I really don’t know what to do. Thanks for reading this until the end.
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My baby had those things he was a very unsettled baby. I tried everything for reflux and colic. He even had prescription milk. None of which worked. It is very stressful but its all trial and error after many things i changed him to aptamil comfort and now at 22 weeks old he is like a new baby. Happy lil boy. Hope things get easier for you soon. It will. Hang on in there x
Get out the house as much as you can, fresh air does wonder’s for both of you.just walk and walk,he will soon nod off.only thing I can suggest with after baths and dressing is get kid’s you tube on your phone and learn to dress with one hand.it will get easier but try and take each hour or two at a time xx
I understand the first thing you need to know it’s nothing you are doing or have done you can and will do this it does get easier just remember you are both still learning how to do this x please do try and talk to you dr or health visitor they are thee to help and will not judge they can offer advice and help for you to take of and when you want/need it x
Bless u huni. All I can tell u is that it does eventually get easier. The first year is the absolute hardest as the only way ur baby knows how to communicate with u is by crying. Noone will judge u at a mums and tots if he cries. He may actually surprise you. But u do need to stop being so hard on urself. You’ve made it thru 6 months, 6 of the hardest months. Try talking to ur partner and not be so worried about judgements that u imagine everyone is gonna make. None of us mummies are perfect, and trying our best is all we can do, and u are doing. It does get easier as ur baby can learn to communicate with you. If your worried about his health then speak to ur doc and don’t take no for an answer. All my love to u hun. Stop being so hard on urself. These little humans are sent to try us lol. Xxxx ❤
Aww bless you know reading this sounded like me my daughter is 2 now I thought I couldn’t have kids and was over the moon when I found out I was pregnant then bang she was here was up crying every 20 minutes non stop nothing would help was constantly knackered to the point I nearly fainted. What you need to keep thinking is this will NOT last forever you can get through this and you will baby probably has colic which my daughter has nothing helped invest lying her face down across my knee and rubbing her back or sat up right I.e bouncer pram it’s not recommended but for a hour sleep for both of you would be good. keep yourself hydrated and remember to eat I know we lack in those things when stress hits. Maybe also mention to your doctor about how low you feel he/she might recommend some help . Even if you partner or mum or someone could take little one for hour try get some sleep. I’m here if u need to.chat I know how it feels like it’s never going to end but it does I. Promise my daughter is 2 and is my best friend & I’m pregnant again God help me lol xx
Get an appointment for yourself you may have pnd.. and get your baby checked to see if he needs milk changing