Can I have a privet post please? Thank you in advance. So I have a daughter wh…
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Can I have a privet post please? Thank you in advance.
So I have a daughter who’s 2. Her father and I split up when she was 6 months old after I found out he was having affair with one of my best friends. They are now living together and planning a future.
However since the split my ex husband has seen our daughter 10 times. He’s always had parental rights to her and I’ve tried to encourage him to keep the bond of daddy daughter! He took me to court because he didn’t like my terms rules etc!! His family all got involved I was getting death threats and his mother was extremely abusive to me. I suffered mildly with postnatal depression. The court ruled in my favour because of all the police reports and the fact my ex and his mother had lied to social services. He had to see our child in a contact centre.
Anyway after the courts I arranged every other week for him to spend time with our daughter however it came to light he actually wasn’t there he was picking her up dropping her off with his mum or brother for him to go away for weekends with his girlfriend or to go out drinking. He didn’t even see her on her birthday because he went away with the girlfriend!! He doesn’t ever put our child first or even ask how she is. I’ve tried to be amicable and send him updated pictures and tell him how well our daughter is doing. Well anyway i sent him and update her and he asked if he could see her so I replied saying we’ll sort out a few day visits to see how they are and for her to get to know him then look at her sleeping over however last time my daughter saw his girlfriend she was very distressed and upset. All my daughter did was cry when she went near her and that’s not my daughter at all. She doesn’t cry often and is a very happy child. So I pointed out it wasn’t a good idea for the girlfriend to see our daughter till she’s comfortable with him and then we can look at slowly introducing her so our child can be happy round her…. this has totally back fired and he’s not happy I’ve said no to her being there just yet and saying I’m poison and I’ve turn our child against his girlfriend. However our child’s 2 she normally likes EVERYONE!! I don’t say one bad word about anyone in front of my child be it with family/friends/him/her.
I guess I’m just wondering does anyone know how I should move forward for my daughters sake? I feel like I should just leave him be, I’ve been more than fair and reasonable. My friends and family who have seen everything agree on the stepping back and waiting till my daughter can ask to see him but I don’t feel it’s fair on her I think she should know who her dad is….
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