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Did anyone else find their second baby a lot harder than their first? I know no 2 babies are the same but I have quite a small gap (13 months) between mine and I just assumed I’d be right back into the swing of it 😂 but I’m not and I’m really struggling. He’s 7 weeks now I’m worried I might have a bit of PND as I don’t feel I’ve bonded properly yet. I love him to bits but just feel I look after him because I have to. He’s always been a hungry baby and I feel like I’m just constantly feeding him all day. He won’t be put down and when I do put him down he screams until he’s up again. And even then he’s still crying. I can’t do anything with my other child and it makes me feel guilty and miss our time together just being the 2 of us. I feel terrible because I think of all these women who are desperate for a baby and here I am not enjoying mine.
My dad passed away when my son was 3 weeks old so i don’t know if it’s because I’m grieving or depressed or both. I very nearly told my health visitor this week but couldn’t find the words and instead told her that I’m fine when I know not.x
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I found the first few months hard because I too felt like I had to put my eldest in the background a lot (there’s 20 months between mine) so really he was still quite young. My second is a lot different to my first though. My eldest has always been an independent boy but the baby (he’s 13 months now) is quite the opposite lol. He always wants to be near me and cries if I don’t have him in my arms. He has slept with me for most of his life, it’s only the past month or so he’s slept in his cot. It’s hard in the beginning but it will get easier. I cried when I knew my husband had to go back to work because I thought I wouldn’t be able to do it, but I have and I do. Some days are hard but it’s much easier than I imagined.
I felt exactly the same when i had my second and dont put so much pressure on yourself! Its hard work as it is! I felt really guilty that i spent less time with my eldest but in a wee while youll get into a routine involving your eldest as much as you can and giving praise for being an excellent older sibling xxxxx it does get easier i promise you can do this xxxx
Would a sling help? That way baby’s happy being close to you & easier to do things with your older child. 7 weeks is still so little, things will get easier, feeds become more spread out. Do make sure you speak out if you’re struggling. Take care xx
As for the not bonding, maybe because you have your hands full with having essentially 2 babies, you’re just a bit overwhelmed and very busy. Once it settles, you’ll be fine 🙂
My second is so much easier than my first in every single way. I’m pregnant with my 3rd now though so I’ll try not to jinx myself 🤣