Could I have a pp please? So this is a pretty long one, but I have a 3 year ol…
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Could I have a pp please?
So this is a pretty long one, but I have a 3 year old son, me and his father split up when he was a few months old, at first everything was petty on both sides like any break up… but I calmed down and got my sh*t together. But both he and his girlfriend are consistently petty… his girlfriend has harassment orders in place from both my sons nursery and my mother btw. Anyhow… we’ve been to court twice and had orders enforced… first time he broke the order (that he paid for) within weeks… this time he broke (again, an order hed paid for) it the same day we left court and has continued to do so ever sinse 😑 anyhow I’ve recently started training for work (arranged myself and not by job centre) which I’ve never really bothered with so to me its really important… my training is on the days hes supposed to be having our son, but hes been inconsistent with it… irm trying to avoid court cause I’m sure they’ve gota be sick of seeing us by now xD I’ve asked his mum to ask (she asks him for me cause his missus takes his phone and gives me abuse if i text him) if he insists on breaking the order, could he please type something up that states when he actually plans on having our son as I can’t deal with having to worry about last minute babysitters and that if I dont have anything on paper saying when hes having him, I’ll have no choice but to consistently book my childminder until he informs me of the exact days… hes already started making out ive stopped him seeing our son, but I honestly feel I have no choice other than to carry on whqt I’m doing, or lose my chance of a good job by quitting the training… am I beyond avoiding court now? Im not sure how to deal with it 😕
Tia x
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If there’s a court order in place it has to be followed by both parties. If hes consistently failing to keep up his side then I would send him a letter (keep a copy and send signed delivery) stating what the court order is, when he has failed to stick to it (dates/times) and that you’re giving him another chance to stick to it before you make alternate arrangements..the 1st time he doesn’t stick to it book your child minder and tell him to take you back to court for access. Keep a log of all the times he fails to stick to the order. I’m all for father’s having rights and access to their children but if he isn’t sticking to it and it could negatively affect your life and job prospects then that’s not fair on your or your child, you’ve got a life to live aswell!
I would continue to book the childminder until he gives you set days. Give him to a certain date to make up his mind then take it to court