Could I have a private post please- I need it to be private cos there’s family m…

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Could I have a private post please- I need it to be private cos there’s family members on this group that I don’t want to see me post…. I need a bit of an outsiders opinion, basically my partners uncle is getting married in barbados next month. This has been planned for a long time and we both decided we wouldn’t be able to go because we wouldn’t be able to afford it and also there’s no children going so would mean leaving my little girl for a week with my mum which I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing. So that was that. Anyway fast forward to last weekend someone has dropped out of the holiday meaning there’s a space come available with everything paid for just needs the name changing. My partners dad asked him if he wanted to go and he wud pay for it for his bday. They asked me but I obviously wasn’t going to say no infront of everyone so I just nodded and agreed. But I broke down as soon as we left because I’m upset at the thought of him going. I don’t know how other people think about things like this and I might just be being over sensitive but I was disgusted at him agreeing to go. My reason being was that if we both agreed to not go and then only one of us got the chance to go I would turn it down straight away because I wouldn’t feel right going without my partner or baby! I get that its a good opportunity etc but what matters to me is that if one can’t go then we all don’t go. That’s how I’ve always thought and don’t know why someone would think differently. Its not even like a lads holiday where I wouldn’t want to go, its a big family holiday and me and his daughter r his family and I would love to go but I can’t I think that’s what’s making it worst. He said he understood the same night his dad asked him and agreed he wouldn’t go but they r due to fly out on the 8th of may and he still hasn’t told his dad. So in my heart I think he is still planning on going. What would other ladies do? Would u be upset! I don’t want to be some kind of gf that holds him back but I feel that strongly about this that I think if he went I would question if I wanted to be with him or not. He knows how much this would upset me and I Wouldn’t dream of ever going so I think if he went it would show a lot? He keeps saying its a once in a lifetime opportunity but my response is if u want to go so bad then we will save up, we can all go together as a family once we can afford it, instead of him going without us?
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